"Just get over it! [img]http://cdn.sasstatic.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] There's people in the world that have it worse. Blah, blah, blah!"

So I'm guessing the next time a homeless guy complains to me about how he has no food I should tell him to get over it since there's people in other countries that don't even have homeless shelter. Or maybe if a walk by a guy with a severed arm, I should tell him to get over it since there are people who are blind. Maybe I should tell the blind person to get over the fact that he/she is blind because some people are mute/deaf! *sigh*.

Seriously, do you feel like socking them in the mouth for saying this?

Also, subtopic: What is bothering you right now? Vent it out: No politics, no flaming each other, no religion. Be civil and stay thirsty, my friends.

Well if there's nothing you can do about it, then there's no point in constantly complaining and wallowing in your sadness all the time.

Quite frankly, sometimes it's needed advice. If someone is just moping about for days on end wallowing in self-pity because they got dumped or something it's annoying and not doing them any good, so they should indeed just get over it. Or worse, even more petty things like losing at some event.

Of course it's not the proper things in all times, but wallowing in self-pity does no one good, only harm and annoys the people around you to the point they tell you to "just get over it".

And nothing is bothering me right now other than the standard too much to read, too little time

Just get over it.

Kick rocks into a ditch, and rot there.




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C'mon Frodo, you can do better than that.

What exactly in your life warranted a "just get over it" response? Like Def said, sometimes it's appropriate immediately, and sometimes it warrants delay, but I think that the Stoic advice will win out in the end.

What comes to mind when someone tells me to "get over it"?

"You're an idiot."

Actually, I don't even remember. I just made this topic if any of you had this happen to you before . I apologize if the first post made it seem like I am raging about it

"Damn right" ? I don't know. *shrug*

No, I would not say it to homeless people. But to the ever-dwindling rest of us who are lucky, comparatively speaking to, say, homeless people, I'd advise to stop listening to ourselves all that much.

I'd say it's not really good advice, but that the general sentiment may be appropriate in certain circumstances. It would be better to counsel a person as to HOW to get over the mysterious it, rather than to simply badger them with imperatives. Simply saying "get over it" is useless because it only serves the purpose of trivializing the recipient's problem. Also, using the phrase "get over it" in reference to legal, economic, or biological challenges, restrictions etc. is simply offensive. The issues in those spheres are often ones that are long-lasting or permanent, unlike being dumped, where emotional turmoil far outlasts the few short moments in which a relatinoship is formally ended.

Trivial problems are trivial. "Get over it" is a simple, blunt way of letting someone know how trivial their problem is. If the problem isn't trivial then you're just being a [censored].

even if some one is wallowing in self pity, such an unempathetic approach as "get over it" isn't going to inspire any change for the better.

whats bothering me? [censored] bag customers who come into my work place and think that they're entitled to free stuff. Then call me an [censored] and complain when i don't give them jack other than what they paid for. mean while their parking in the drive through, backing into other customers. I bend over backwards for these people and all they ever do is buy stuff thats on sale (while still trying to get further discounts for the most minor of imperfections such as the box the product comes in having a tear), which cuts the margin of profit to the point where my hours get cut.

The assumption is it's at the point where it's time for some tough love. Empathy isn't what a whiny person necessarily needs, they may need a swift kick in the butt to get moving.

Depends on what they're telling someone to "get over". A joke made in poor taste, for example, I tell people to get over those all the time. Losing a limb on a battlefield or on the job, on the other hand (no pun intended), good luck getting over that any time soon, if ever.

it may not be what they need but when most people are feeling down for what ever reason, justified or not, and you give them a swift kick in the butt their going to look at it as if your kicking them when their down.

its better to be more articulate, rather than simply saying "get over it" you should give them a reason to get over it. Like: "hey man i know [blank] happened and it svcks but you've got [blank] to look forward and your probably better off thinking about that" or something like that.

Get over it is only really appropriate when some one is [censored]ing unwantedly about their problems to you and your tired of hearing it.

I get sick of people telling me to "get over it"...why can't people be more friendly in this world?

As for (non-political) stuff that's bothering me at the moment: Not having a girlfriend (but of course you know that ), getting backstabbed by people, people who are my friends being friendly with those who dislike me, and how people such as me who have Asperger's get poorly treated by society in general...

Tim (aka the Slipperman)

Pretty much "I'm alright, I don't care, I don't want to help." Though there usually seems to be an air of belligerence about it rather than being purely uncaring, at least in my experience.