So I was browsing the forums today when a certain thought hit me and while it's a rather minor one I thought I'd share it and get your opinions on this.

I have a few people here who have befriended me and as do I outside of the digital world, and I sometimes get complimented on a trait I have or an action I've performed. However out of those on my friends list I did not add anyone of my own incentive, none of my friends are people I approached myself, and I rarely if ever find myself complimenting others. It's not like I don't like other people and it's not that I don't find what others do to be impressive. It's just almost like it just doesn't really cross my mind.

I tend to think the reason I don't call my friends is due to me being more comfortable on my own as being around others can be exhaustive since I'm a rather introverted person with ADD so the desire to spend even more time with other people never really comes to me, especially since I already do spend quite a lot of time with others as my job is social in nature, I attend school and I get called quite often to go do stuff on my time off by said friends. As for compliments if someone does something really awe inspiring or important I'll compliment that but when it's those small things like "hey, that's a nice shirt", "you play X well" or "cool car" I hardly seem to think to compliment any of that unless the person is specifically showing it off reminding me that it's something that should be considered compliment worthy. Or if someone else has complimented it already.

So what do you guys think. Are you perhaps similar? Do you find it wrong to act like I do if there is no malice behind it or is it just being peculiar in a manner? Or perhaps you know someone in your life who is similar, never calls but will attend if you call them to go hang out. Perhaps an apology is in order for some, perhaps not. I don't know.

Just your personality. It just doesn't occur to you. The world could do better for a few less brown nosers. Good job!

I am sinilar in some ways to you as well. Though different in others. Mostly the Introvert part. I would rather be by myself than out with frienss most of the time. I don't really understand why though. I have more fun with my friends than I do by myself.

About the thing where you don't call anyone to hang out, but when called, you go... I know some people like that. Some of which I've been friends with for years and am really close with. Same goes for people my dad knows. In the case of the friends I have like that, and the friends my dad has like that, there's no malice intended on their behalf and neither do we take offense. It's just part of their personality, and we accept it.

Same thing with compliments, it simply doesn't occur to some people. I used to be like that myself until recently. I mean, I don't go off complimenting whatever I see for the sake of complimenting, but if I think something is nice I will certainly make it a point to mention my appreciation. Again though, whether you do, or you don't, it boils down to mere personality, as far as my experience is concerned.

Most of the time when people compliment you, it's because they're showing their appreciation, not because compliments are some form of currency, and they expect you to pay a compliment back at some point. Between real friends, that is. If someone is complimenting you because they just want to hear a compliment in return, they're being insincere.

So, yeah, don't worry is my advice. No biggie.

I'm pretty similar. Sometimes I don't see my friends for months (even years, on a few occasions), but then when I run into one of them, or they give me a call, we have an awesome time and it's like we saw each other just a week ago.