About a year ago this girl asked me out but I said no for some stupid reason. Well now I'm starting to really like her and I want to ask her out.

Should I?

Inb4JAHO

I'd say yes, although she may have been emotionally scarred by you rejecting her and say no just to piss you off. There is no reason you shouldn't though.

Shes probably gonna say no, i would.

No, it should be fine. As long as you didn't reject her harshly, but she may just reject you out of spite.
Just ask her out

JOAH

All I said was "I don't think we should".

Just do it.

oh wait

JAHO!!!!

JAHO

It's weird yeah, but do it anyway. If someone did that to me I'd first go "U mirin' aesthetics, brah? Ye u mirin'" and do a little victory dance before rejecting them back. But I'm not a very graceful person. Plus, I'm not a girl, I have to worry about my alpha gauge.

So yeah, JAHO anyway.

Do it, but in a way that doesn't make you out to be a dike. Obviously you've changed in some way since last year that makes you think that you two are a good match for each other. I suggest that you try to figure out what that change is and then explain it to her.

You should let her know how your feelings have changed for her before asking her out.

"You know, I didn't feel this way before, but I've really come to like you a lot over the past year. Do you want to go out sometime?"

Something like that.

Hmmmm if a girl rejected me one day then turned around and asked me out the next day, I'd refused---I would start thinking there was something fishy going on .

A year ago? If she hasn't found someone else in that time... Yes, you should.

But I'm not the best person to say what and when you should say. I've wanted to ask this one girl out for 6 years now...

At this stage Spectral, even if you asked a rock out I'd be impressed.

Tell her you've reconsidered her offer and you're willing to take her up on it if it's still available.

JAHO

Depends how long her memory is I guess.

As a girl, I would want an explanation of how things changed. I'm assuming you're still friends? If so that could mean she had no hard feelings. It could also mean that maybe her feelings have changed as well.

You should try to become more confident in yourself.
Make up your own mind, make your own choices.
Cus that gives you some "character" instead of just doing what other people think you should be doing.



Because imagine for one second that you would tell this girl the truth - that you had to go on a forum to ask if you should ask her out?
You will just seem weak and unsure of yourself and girls do not like it.

If you said that it wasn't a good idea the first time because it might jeopardize your friendship, then obviously now either your affection has grown to where you're wiling to risk the previously built up friendship and trust you have with her, or your friendship with her has grown to a point where you feel it's strong enough to endure the trials of dating.

your choice, take one and call me at the end of the week.. I'll be out on the links.

Of course you're totally allowed to change your mind! Look at Harry Potter and Ginny Weasley.

Or better yet how about Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson from the Twilight series lol .

rilly?




we're taking complete works of fiction and attempting to compare them to real world situations?

I mean.. "Sure, but then Harry did save the universe from Voldemort, of course he can change his mind..."

Like, I dunno... telling NJ survivors of Sandy that everything'll be okay, because Tom Hanks got off that island as well -only Wilson was lost forever..

Tom Hanks makes everything better .

That's the perfect way to bring it up. If you rejected her once before (depends how long ago and how badly) then you can bet your hat that she probably still likes you (dependent on how long ago this was). So, if this was only like a couple of months or so ago and now you guys are closer friends, go for it. You can just say "I know I said no when you asked me out a while ago, but I was stupid. You're really amazing blah blah blah, do you want to go out?"

Again, this is dependent on how long ago. If this was like a couple of years ago she probably won't even remember or care. But if it was recent, (or if you guys just became closer together) you could say you weren't sure at the time or didn't know her well enough.

I don't know, I say go for it. It just depends on how you go about it.