Today, I was talking to someone about a sensitive topic which many people are afraid to be public about, and he started talking about how he was in the military, and he was afraid to tell others in fear of being shamed.

Me, not being in the military, but being in high school Junior ROTC had a basic understanding of his fears, and I just told him about how even though I am open about the subject to everyone I know, I still hold a high rank and position in my halfway-possibly-able-to-be-considered-pseudo military hierarchy. I tried to assure him that if his friends really knew him that the most they would do is give him a bit of crap about it, but he did not like what I had to say apparently, and he told me to "shut up because I do not know what I am talking about", Roughly translating for the sake of being vague.

One thing that hurts me more than anything is being told to shut up because apparently, I have no clue what I am doing just because I am still in high school. I know that I do not know everything, but of all things, when I am giving the best advice I possibly can to help, why do you bite my head off like that?


NOW THAT THE ANECDOTE IS OVER: What phrase truly sends you off the handle as being the worst possible thing someone can say to you, and why?


Also, for those curious as to the topic of that conversation:

Military and ponies? Just keep it quiet.

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Your friend is just really defensive and most military personnel are notorious for their ribbing of one another. They can be merciless and will bust balls at nearly every oppurtunity. Your friend may be right to not want to say anything about it. If it is about ponies why do his friends even need to know? It isn't exactly a need to know thing imo.

You didn't deserve them chewing you out though, and them dismissing your advice outright.

I think the most disrespectful phrase will always be based on the context ofthe situation. I can think of many but each one is very disrespectful and Idk if you can measure disrespect on a scale because it affects each person differently and depending on the context some phrases can be a joke or a tasteless comment.

if hes afraid people won't like him anymore because of his likes then he should just become a drone that does nothing that isn't widely accepted and do more things he doesn't care about just because it's popular


as for me, i don't like when people try to hide how rude they're being, people who secretly whisper to a single person anything that's intended to be rude really gets to me

I know they will bust balls, but that is half the fun. Racking on eachother is synonymous with brotherly love.

He was also talking to me about being open about it, but I still got chewed out for no reason when he specifically was the one carrying the subject. I was just putting in my two bits.

This also happened on another forum, but for the sake of not wanting to break or skirt the rules, I will try to keep names and locations vague.

"Stop being so hard on yourself, you're a great person." Complete and utter bull[censored].

Also, "man up" makes me want to punch a hole into the next dimension and hit them from the inside out (which, ironically, would be incredibly "manly"). Maybe I don't give a [censored] about conforming to what you or anybody else considers a "man". "Grow a pair" and "get over it" ignite the fire in me as well.

When someone calls me a troll.

"Shut up" and the like are all quite mild ... There are plenty more things that are more outside bounds. None can be repeated here.


Yeah, but this isn't so much disrespectful as it is just stupid.


Reinstate a modified Don't ask/Don't tell.

I've never had anyone try to talk down to me or anything for joining the Army. Quite the opposite, actually. At my work especially where a lot of my co-workers are older people, they all act like I'm a hero or something because I volunteered to do Infantry, I'm sworn in and enlisted and all that jazz but I haven't even gone through basic training yet, I don't leave until January I even have some really good friends who are what most people would consider "hippies" and even they support me because they know me as a person. Though, If anyone ever does insult me, which I'm sure will happen eventually, I don't really know what I'd say, I guess I'd just smile and wave and take comfort in the fact that I'm proud of myself for what I do and ask them if they can say the same.

But now that I think of it, there was one thing that someone said that actually offended me and felt disrespectful. When I first started at my current job there was this girl I worked with who asked me what I was going to do since I graduated high school, I told her that I already enlisted and swore into the Army and that my job is going to be Infantry. She looked at me like I just killed a puppy and said, "Why would you volunteer to kill people? That just sounds awful, you should've got a desk job or be a medic so you can actually help people" something along those lines. I was kind of shocked to hear her say that and just kinda shrugged and kept working, but it made me feel like she thinks I'm a bully or some jerk now I don't know, it's hard to explain to people who don't want to join the military why I, or anyone else, does it.

Shut the [censored] up you [censored] [censored] [censored]!

Note: variations to this phrase are quite common but convey the same sentiment.

Valid question. One I wouldn't ask a stranger ... She's got chutzpah to ask you outright. I like this girl.

Hell if I was in the military and liked ponies and the others found out about it I'd lift my head up and laugh with them . Now have I had disrespected phrases barked at me? Oh you better believe it.

To me? I can't think of anything. I try not to be easily offended.

In general, though, I'd think the worst thing would be some of the especially insulting racial slurs out there.

Or generalizations based on race, religion, political stance. Those things come from deep-rooted, illogical biases, and it's hard to get the other person to see things from one's own perspective when it comes to them. So you know when they're false, but have little chance to prove it. They'll go on being ignorant no matter what.

I find the phrase "meat and potatoes" unbearable.

I don't mind shut up, but shut your mouth will get me ready to throw bows and smack domes.

But what really gets me is when someone says "You'll find someone!" when talking about relationships wise. I'm like..don't tell me that, you don't know that..looking back on my track record that doesn't seem like it's ever going to happen. What gets me more is this usually comes from someone who has friend zoned me and knows I like them but doesn't feel that way about me. Don't sugar coat it! Just tell me dammit. But don't give me the "you're having a guilt trip" saying. It doesn't make me feel better.

Oh, she's very pretty too but yeah, if chutzpah is what you call it, she's got plenty of it, talks-too-much is what I call it

Getting an argonian nick-name IRL is not as rare as I thought after all.

Most disrespectful phrase? Probably a phrase directed at something someone can't do anything about, I guess. This would include the example in the OP.

I get annoyed when people say "so to make a long story short", and they go on to do the opposite.

Yeah, it's probably best for a grown ass man to keep his love a a little girl's show to himself in the military. He'd definitely be ridiculed, and rightly.