To start let me lay out what I have done see if I missed something mayhap? I have built all but the north wing of my falkreath home, fully furnished apart from certain mounted heads. Bedroom and all beds and storage for children.
I have not received a letter about adoption, and seen some people say that you are supposed to get one.is this needed?
I have spoke to both the ladies in honorhall orphanage, constance has an option can I adopt a child but just says no because of the old bat that runs the place. Why can I not adopt from the orphange is there something else I need to do?
I asked the boy in Dawnstar if I could adopt him (and on separate saves the girl in whiterun.) they both said yes I was given the option to tell them I had room. They tell me they will see me at home but it's been 3 days of waiting walking around travelling to other towns and still they do not show up at lakeview.
Do I have to adopt two children before they come home, or toys, or clothes in the dresser?? I just can't see what I am missing here and wonder if I have hit a glitch. Any help would be very appreciated

Oh yes also I do have a wife, mjal the huntress from riften.

I had the same problem yesterday. Everything seemed to work fine after switching the game off and going back on

Omg so simple yet worked my son arrived just waiting on daughter. thanks for that