I wanna adopt children but I dont want it to be an obligation. Can I just throw em in my house and only talk to them every once and a while? Do I have to take care of them and watch out for them?

Naw. Atleast I don't think so. I just give them gifts and then dart for the door. They don't seem to mind xD

Well, isn't that kind of the point of adopting a kid? If you don't want to be bothered with parenthood, adopting is... I dunno, kind of pointless.

Yeah, but its not like you have to actually be tere everyday and watch them grow up. Playing a game every now and then and giving them gifts pretty much makes them happy.

We are talking about the game...right?

As, this sounds uncannily like my childhood...

Maybe. Maybe not. *dun dun dunnnnnnnnn

They seem to look after themselves. I adopted two not because I wanted them but because I felt sorry for them. I don't really feel like a parent to them. In fact I'm toying with the idea of moving out completely as my place is just too crowded. I got a steward, fine. Then I got the kids. Then I thought they might like a dog so I got a dog. Then a giant attacked them so I thought I'd better get a housecarl to protect them... So now I can't walk through the house without "You need something, ma?" And "Honour to you my thane." And "Put that down!" Whenever I'm moving an item.

To be honest I'd move back to Breasehome and leave them all to it if I could exchange my alchemy lab for an armory (you can exchange it for a child's bedroom, why not armory, kitchen ect). I just love the armour dummies and all the weapon racks.

Give the boy a wooden sword and the girl a dolly and they'll be fine.

Depends on their weight.

But really, if you don't want to take care of the kids you adopt, why even adopt them? Technically it's possible but in a RP sense it's cruel.

I begin to see why DSHS puts prospective adoptive parents through the wringer the way they do... if you're willing to put up with all their crap, you MUST want to be a parent.

It eliminates the possibly of this issue, anyway.

I find parenting (in game) to be a lot more rewarding and enjoyable than I thought it would be. It certainly adds towards a nicer gaming experience.

parenting in game is nothing like the real thing and if you have a problem tending your children in game....do the world a favour and dont ever have kids cause the neglect and abuse they will suffer isnt necessary

Far be it from me to speculate on the OP's abilities as a parent in real life, but raising kids in Skyrim has absolutely nothing to do with real life - where it's a real labour of love, and the heavy responsibilities are balanced against the larger (usually) emotional gains of being a parent and seeing a real person grow. Adoption in Skyrim seems pretty one-dimensional, for good or bad. This means that you don't really need to do much for them, but then there are no real rewards for having them either, aside from a small extra layer of NPC interaction. I rather like having a small person around the house but the experience isn't exactly parental.

I just drop my kids in, im sure my wife can handle things while im gone untill i get home.

Kids do not grow up, So yes it is because you have to parent them forever.



The kids will hate you, Until you get them gifts if you tell them to do something and they complain (If you have 2, 1 always does) i don't know what happens if you have One Child.


So basically, Let them do what they want, or work for money to go get them gifts. So yes they are a pain




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Absolutely correct. But for a die-hard RPer who will almost certainly never marry or have kids in real life, it's a nice option to have.

Get two so one can take care of the other.

A thread like this anywhere on the net would normally go *way* over 7 pages.

...But there is no nagging of Skyrim kids to do their homework for tomorrow (maybe the housecarl helps homeschool them?), so IMO it's much less pain than RL in that one respect.

I adopted two girls and was absolutely floored to walk home one day and see them bickering like real kids. That was so surprising, but it took them less than 2 seconds to realize I was home and bug me for an allowance.

I believe this is as difficult as it gets. Every so often, I give them candy, toys, and an allowance, but if it wasn't for my attendant, the girls would be lonely. I'm hardly ever home, thanks to the demanding citizens of Skyrim (who obviously are so damn lazy and incompetent, there are abandoned kids everywhere).

Once I'm done taking care of business, I plan on retiring, living in Lakeview just to sit back and watch my kids grow up.

That is, until the next DLC calls me out of it.

There is some gift giving, playing games, telling them to do chores and go to bed dialouge but nothing is required to be done. Its not like Fable where you had to keep their disposition up by being home often and giving them things. Your family wont leave you like they will in fable.

So yes, just like the cow you can just have them at your house and drop in on them time to time.

QUOTE: Once I'm done taking care of business, I plan on retiring, living in Lakeview just to sit back and watch my kids grow up.

I'm planning the exact same thing. My first playthrough (142 hours) did what was necessary, gave me a working knowledge of Skyrim so that I could do better in ensuing runs. She was fun to RP, but I think I've gotten her to the point that she's ready to settle down in Solitude with her husband, two housecarls (one repurposed as a follower), a dog, and a kid or two. It's just a matter of when I get my paws on Hearthfire (and if they don't port it for the PS3 there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth).

My other characters might build houses and adopt as well, though I will most likely keep them active.