Don't you think someone might get the wrong idea? Let's say that someone is talking trash on the forums, so a moderator suspends him for "flaming", and he thinks that the moderator is actually suspending him for being gay, and it will either sink into his self esteem or make him really angry. All you can do is hope that he either understands the context, or takes the second approach, because the first one might very well be his last.
Just a thought, the word is used increasingly often and quite offensively in the real world, if I were a moderator, being professional well respected members of the forums, I would at least consider using a different word
(I've done my best to avoid offensive words and immature tones in this topic, and respect the community guidelines, please respect me)