You can only have one steward for each house, Valdimar is your steward for Windstadt Manor and will be till the day he dies, having him as a follower makes no difference to him being your steward. If you are playing on the PC you could use the console maybe or a mod, but on the Xbox 360 the only way to get a new steward is to kill Valdimar. You could have left him as your housecarl and got yourself someone else to be steward if you wanted someone still guarding the house. I would not worry about it, nothing is going to attack the house while you are not there, and if your character has no spouse there is no one for even a random kidnapping. And the kidnapping would happen even if you had a housecarl and steward guarding the place.