Yes I do. Hell my friends have pulled me out of near depression issues at times. In turn I wail on the people who hurt them and will even act as an unofficial therapist.

Its a difficult road to keep at times because there are always uncertainties but stick to it and you'd be surprised at how things work out.
"Life is but a long endeavor that only you, who walk upon it, can change." I am not afraid to keep on living, I'm not afraid to walk this world alone but personally I'd rather do it with people I've befriended and trust.

Yeah, I have a large circle of very close friends, and there are a few of them who have done some truly great things for me and were there for me when I needed them, so yes, I believe in friendship. All these long lasting, good friendships started in highschool though. My best friend in uni is my best friend from highschool. I'd honestly take a bullet for him, because he's proved he'd do the same for me (not literally).

As for old age, I can't say, I'm not there yet.

I honestly don't believe in friendship anymore, I've become more of a loner who doesn't try on any level to connect with people. Though I do keep a handful of associates that are the closest thing I have to established friendships.

I have a single person who I'd call a true friend. I've known him since elementary school, we walked to highschool most days together and we played DnD together for going on 7 years. We're both in our early 20s now, and live in different cities, but we stay in touch and he's come down to visit when his schedule permits. I'll also being going to move in with him once my current roommate goes back to school. He knows everything about me, and me him.

There are other people who I hang out with and do things with, or I did before I moved across the country. Now I only talk to them once in a while (less due to me having troubles initiating conversation, even with people I know), but I'll still see them anytime I go back to visit family.

And then there are people I know from work who I talk to on shift but we do nothing together outside of work.

All the people above I would call my friend. So yes, I believe in friendship.

I've got three best friends

One's my cousin of the same age.

One's two years younger.

One's my age too, and we just act ape[censored] crazy 'caus it's fun.


Yeah, I believe in friendship.

My answer to this topic: I don't like being added to any friendlist of any kind at any place, if its a adding just to add me thing.

..I don't believe in friendship anymore. I hate being alone like this and all these feelings of isolation, but I'm just..tired of trying. I'm tired of chasing after people who don't wont to be my friend. And I'm tired of attracting people who aren't going to be good friends to begin with. I see bonds and close groups form, and it kills me that I can't be part of it(one large example is on this forum but whatever).


Ugh Im even tired of threads like this. I'm TIRED of having to think about this. I wish I were a damn drone that feels nothing and thinks about nothing. Playing skyrim and messing around with papyrus all day as a means of escape is losing its foothold on my mind..

People with friends I declare have good lives. They have never been in this position before, but I feel they take it for granted, but I guess its hard not to because you know it'll always be there. I took nothing in my life for granted because nothing good lasts forever, while everything bad sticks around, and trying to force away does nothing. I still can't get over how I met this awesome person in an MMO, and what happens.. my [censored] modem went out and I was offline for the whole weekend. Never saw that person again. Met another cool person in December, have not seen her since Jan 17..

Don't even care about relationships anymore. Too [censored] up for that.

Yeah. [censored] this.

If you don't mind me asking, Nova, how old are you?

I've gone through periods without friends, but I've pulled through. I'm sure you can, too.

Your clue there is "like in the movies": it's fiction.

There have been a lot of studies into friendship, and in real life:

- You only have 3 or 4 close friends at any one time (people you'd share your deepest secrets with and/or lend large amounts of money to). Some studies say you only have 3-4 close friends in your life.
- The average friendship lasts 7 years
- The people you count as your closest friends might only count you as a moderately good friend and vice versa

What you have is circles of attention, referred to by some as Dunbar's Number, with 150 people on the outer ring as the most people the average person can truly see as individuals. Those 150 people are your acquaintances, including work-friends and people you know from online.

Within that there are 30-50 people who are your friends, who you see in more than one context - for example, the forum-friends you choose to team up with for online play, or your work-friends you go for beers with. There's no particular closeness there, but you make an effort to spend time with them.

Then, of those 30-50, you have your 3-5 close friends and that's the "Hollywood" version of friendship, except that that type of closeness is usually only maintained for a few years, tops. It's why you're probably not friends with the people you went to school with, because you grew up and changed and no longer have anything in common. I used to count two work-friends I was particularly close to for many years, but they had babies and we saw each other less and less, and I don't even know the most basic things about them any more (where we used to share our deepest secrets). I ought to count my childhood best friend, because I do think of him as family, but I can't even name all his sister's children and haven't seen him in at least 3 years, so again, realistically he's right on my outer circle.

Once you're aware of that, you can be OK with it - you're not weird or unloved, you're perfectly normal. Plus, seeing how those friendships ebb and flow reminds you to appreciate the one or two people you are particularly close to at that fleeting moment in your life (and if you don't have them now, that's normal - you will soon). Also, that number includes family.

The 'true friend' is an idealistic myth. People are flawed, and will let you down even if it were not their intention. Those who you thought would be your best buddies for life will find a job out of town, meet new people and gradually drift away. You just have to learn to appreciate the relationships you have at any one time.

Well, it happens, I see it, I partake in it, it exists.... so... yes friendship is real.

sounds like someone needs a girlfriend

It only lasts as long as you spread your wing together.

I'm 16, and I've had a friend who has been pals with me for almost 8 years. On my terms, that's quite a long lasting friendship, and I don't see any kind of conflict breaking it up.

It's great in movies in literature. In reality I don't see many, the so called friends are everyone for himself, backstabbing opportunists. The wife will be the best you can get.

Friendship is a unstable thing in life. I've retained very little friends after graduating high school about four years ago. Not including my girlfriend, I have maybe two close friends and a childhood friend of over a decade whose been distanced for a long time. Then again, the "closeness" of those two friends is debatable nowadays given the distance between us, but I still cherish them. All in all, I've taken this dearth of veritable companionship as a time of introspection instead of turning it into something depressing. At least I have my girlfriend and my pets!

Oh, they are out there, they are called girls/boys!! /facetiousness

I'm not old nor wise enough to know for sure.

No offense to him, but I don't see him getting any laydayz I would be jealous of.

Yes I believe in friendship. Why/ Because I have friends. Some are my family members, some are people I have become close to at various points in my life and then chosen to maintain a strong relationship with them.

Sometimes you need your friends, other times you are doing your things and that's fine too. "Friendship" is a very broad term, and I think that trips people up sometimes. Not every friendship is the same. Some are brief and intense, some are life-long and have ups and downs, some are steady, some are casual, some are simply situational. The ones that are long, are to be valued and require effort on both parts - not talking a romantic relationship here either. And the effort on either end can be a simple regular check in, talking once in a while, but you don't worry that the friendship has died just because you aren't in constant contact. Some friendships have a shelf-life, and that has to be accepted along with those friendships that are more durable. Both any friendship is valuable - just don't expect them all to be equal or follow the same patterns.