Well, today I just had an amazing thought. A lot of people, myself probably being the worst offender, post stuff about how they hate themselves, their life, what fate has done to them, etcetera etcetera etcetera. I'm sure none of the optimistic people like to read that, so to be courteous, I thought, why not make a self-loathing thread for all us depressed failures to complain about how pitiful our life is?

Before the mods lock this, I just want to say that this could be benefitial in that we'll probably have no more off-topic, "I hate my life" posts, as they'll all be concentrated right here, where it's on-topic for once. Also, this could potentially help us depressed people by discussing our problems and finding ways to make our failed life a slightly better one.

I'll start this off. I hate myself because I recently realized that I am a complete dike to other people because I was surrounded by a lot of hate growing up, and I want to change, but I know that I'll never change and I'm doomed to hate everything forever, so that means I can't have a wife or kids because I'll most likely become an abusive husband/father, and now I really have no idea what to do with my life anymore, because it is a failure. I have no special skills, I had aspirations, but reality says that I can't fulfill them with skill alone, I'm a complete screw-up, and I'm not even too sure what to believe anymore.

I see no point in hating myself. After all, i'll be spending the rest of my life with him Sure there are things i don't like about myself, but i am who i am, and those parts too are who i am

Wow, that was rather depressing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rk6_hdRtJOE

Then I am doing it right.

I've been assuming that you are a teenager this entire time, Lexicon, so, was I right on that assumption? If so, I think it's too early for you to declare yourself a failure.

I love myself. As for you, if you realise yourself that you're acting like a dike, than you obviously have some idea of the things you shouldn't do. So don't do those things and stop being a dike. Tadaa!

I had, a few years ago (yes you guessed it, in high school), suicidal thoughts. Those disappeared quickly, however, after I started to view life as a challenge. I'll see how long I can go, and there won't be rage-quitting out of it, no matter what!

I originally intended to reply with some attempt of a joke, to cheer up the mood in this dreadfully http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STxVEmXRuU4 thread, but settled with a life-story. Now I'll go back to waiting for the Spiros RP to start, and a new werewolf game to pop up!

i dont know what to say about this thread man, I just dont see the potential in it being beneficial to any 1 person that reads this forum.

one could say, well reading through all these other depressed people makes me feel better about my own life. but thats just a virtual feeling that does not extend to a real-life circumstance.

one could also say having a place for all these people to go to be depressed together might help others not have to see these posts any more... but that just creates a virtual concentration camp...

im not feeling it man. sorry

I'm trying. The only solution is to stop being around people. Everything I say, do, etcetera harms someone else in some way, and I don't want to do that. But hurting people is in my nature, whether I like it or not. I cannot change this. So I'll avoid people, for their own good.

I'm not getting this. It's like, you set out to say "hello, nice day !" and it comes out "you're FAT" ?

Barely joking here : it's obviously not that bad. Seriously though, people have tougher skin than you think for lighter stuff, or ought to have.

Lol, this thread is the epitome of teenage angst.

People posting in this actively will just make fools of themselves, making their aches worse. I don't think anyone REALLY wants to vent on an unofficial thread. People can do that on their own...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WoaktW-Lu38

Sometimes I think that you think you're in a movie about a werewolf or something. Large Ham incoming.


I'm sorry, I'm just trying to lighten the mood. But you do sound very dramatic.




I would have to agree, Lexicon says this thread is here so we don't have off-topic posts like this in other threads, but here's the solution: don't post that stuff unless you're looking for help on the matter, putting a one liner at the end of every post saying "I hate emotion" or "My life svcks" does literally nothing for anyone. I felt depressed a few months ago about something, then I posted my feelings in The Lurkers Lair thread looking for advice, and some of the advice I got actually did cheer me up. I wouldn't have gotten that if I just made an off-hand comment at the end of my post saying "I feel depressed".


This forum CAN be used for people looking for help, and although I can't say what people can and can't say, it's less so for people to just complain about their life for no reason in particular.

This was actually the main reason why I made this thread. So that people can get help.

And @Lost, it is that bad. Take into account tone, charisma, and whatever the other person is feeling, which is something negative whenever I'm around.

Self-fulfilling prophecy, that. You are like Siddhartha sitting on the river's bank, sick to death of himself, feeling irrevocably tainted by the world and its evil influences. It was only then, at the lowest point of his life, when he felt that all worth had left him, and he moved to cast himself into the river, to be at an end, could he realise how precious life is. He turned away from the river, and also from all the worldly things in his life that had brought him sorrow, and sought instead that joy that cannot come from material things or human relationships: inner peace.

Only when you learn to love yourself can you truly express love to others.

You might try reading Siddhartha (I always keep a copy on my desk) and perhaps using it to a stepping stone to the source materials, writings like the Bhagavad Gita and the Upanishads. They are a really great place to get some perspective in this material and superficial world we live in, even if you do not share (or plan to share) in the Hindu and/or Buddhist beliefs.

Yes.

Indeed. Tell you what, Lexicon, we'll start with a simple exercise : you will STOP saying bad things about yourself, like "I'm an ass" or "I don't deserve", like you do every two posts or so. Don't start telling me "but it's true..." don't wanna hear it. M'kay ?

Inner peace is impossible for me. I will always regret my past actions, and knowing that I cannot change will keep the perpetuality of sorrow.

But I hope that in sorrow, I may grow to be a decent person, a humble person. Good within the bad, or something like that.

Really? Cause when I hear "self-loathing thread" I don't think "Self-esteem help thread". Especially since you don't seem very confident in your own ability to change, even when people give you advice.

Best advice ever given, in my opinion.

Now stop moping and go win at life.

Self-loathing people would come to a thread called "Self-Esteem Help Thread"? : confused: Again, I should stay away from people because of these thoughts.

I just don't see how a person who has been spiteful and arrogant his whole life can change with a few tips. I'm thinking that the only way I can change is with some major hypnotherapy.

When I was in highschool, I was a massive dike. I was the meanest bully you could imagine. I made a 65 year old woman retire mid-way through her last year teaching by badmouthing her dying father every day (among other things.) I'll never feel better about doing this, but I'm not going to accept that this is who I am. So I changed. I'm a nice guy now. I do my best to avoid bad situations that could potentially bring out the [censored] in me again. I don't keep away from people, per se. I have a small tight-knit group of friends and spend ample time with them or family. I'm also legitimately a sadist. So instead of whining about it, I got a girl who's a masochist.

Everything you do is done by your choice. Everything you are you choose to be. If you don't want to be an [censored], stop being an [censored]. You're not going to change by moping around. Man up, take responsibility for who you are, and do something about it. Nobody else can change you, certainly not some hypnotherapy quack.