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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 12:43 am

Recently my loved one and I have been having problems as she has been losing interest in me and starting to get interest in other guys. She still loves me, but she has a history of cheating and giving into bodily desires. I posted this on facebook because I couldn't help myself, what with my heart and my mind racing, and I figure the think-happy people of the forums would enjoy this.

NOTE: Though this has a light religious reference, I think its irrelevant enough in this little paragraph/poem that we dont need to bring it up.

Here is the post in full:

Carnal desires will be present in every step of your life. Don't fool yourself into thinking they aren't carnal. If we all gave into them all the time the world would be a much worse place to live. Whether it was God who put it there, Allah, or whatever you believe in, we have a spirit or a soul inside of us that goes beyond the desires of our human body. I try to live as much I can through this soul of mine, as everyone should, and I believe this has brought me overall happiness.

A rush was all it needed to break the wall
A spirit no longer throned within, but taken hostage

This vessel, spirit swept, cherished, held in esteem
This vessel, so much more than the sum of its parts

Flesh, blood, bone, adrenaline. A rush.
Corrupted.

EDIT: I was trying to make this about carnal desires, not my relationship. The beginning paragraph was just a little bit of background as to why i posted this and why I partly view this the way I do

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Anne marie
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 5:17 am

O....kay? I'm not sure what we're here to discuss, are we discussing your potentially cheating other or this poem?

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Laura Shipley
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 4:57 am

No, we are discussing carnal desires. Any experiences you may have had with carnal desires, what you think about carnal desires, are they bad? Are they good for anything?

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Alyce Argabright
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 1:05 am

I am above such base desires, I have robots whose neuro-computational matrix are exact replicas of the women I scanned. I have no need for harlets when I have my lovely robot harem. :blush:

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Francesca
 
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Post » Mon Oct 14, 2013 10:48 pm

Dude, she does not love you, she sees you as a security blanket in between other dalliances. You seriously need us to tell you that it's time to move on?

Your question about Carnal desires is beside the point. We all have them every day, and those of us worth being in a relationship only act on those desires with our partners, not whoever is out there.

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Avril Churchill
 
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Post » Mon Oct 14, 2013 11:45 pm

There is so much more to this than the very short description I provided. I guess Carnal desires as a subject is not a wide enough subject to delve into. I figured if Miley Cyrus could make a song half about carnal desires and I could write all day about it then it would be worth talking about.

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Neliel Kudoh
 
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Post » Mon Oct 14, 2013 10:19 pm

To be serious and piggyback on CCNA (Assuming he can carry a Securitron chassis on his back), actions speak louder than words. If she SAYS she loves you but her actions don't reflect the words, it's best to suspect the worst. You should sit down and talk with her about you concerns, if you don't and things go wrong 'like you feared', you're partially to blame for having never tried to correct the issue.

By and large, desires for others be they same or different six are natural we all get them, even faithful people to their spouses get a stray thought, we're human. But that's not an excuse to cheat, if your girlfriend is losing interest, she may have another man on the side.

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darnell waddington
 
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Post » Mon Oct 14, 2013 9:15 pm

Indeed.

If she truly loved you, she wouldn't have cheated.

However, I'm not a believer in long term relationships. I do not believe we (humans) were ever meant to pair bond for long periods of time. Maybe it worked when we died by the age of 25-30 but we live waaaay longer than that now. We are sixual beings. Lust is a powerful thing.

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Neil
 
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Post » Mon Oct 14, 2013 10:50 pm

Find a nice asixual woman...

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Jade
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 4:38 am

First off, she did not cheat on me. She does however have a history of cheating. I will say she is a different person now, but maybe not as different as I thought.

Lust is indeed a powerful thing. I have been tested more than once with lust while I've been with this girl. If I had gone for it I would not have known the happiness of being with someone I so loved and that loved me, even if that is not meant to last. Part of it is she is losing interest in me. Losing interest, however, is not and will never be an excuse to go trying the waters if you're already in someones pool so to speak.

EDIT: Secondly, I disagree that humans are not meant to pair bond. I can see why, what with our carnal desires, but I suppose being a more spiritual person (spiritual, not religious) I value things like lasting love; the good parts of humanity.

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Killer McCracken
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 8:41 am

You should know this based on every woman unsuccessfully trying to change you, people don't change, only their habits. Who they are and what they are remains the same unless there is some compelling reason to change. And, that can only come from within, not external.

So, if she cheated on a former boyfriend, got caught and dumped, then maybe she will keep her legs closed around other guys as she now understands the consequences. However if you showed up and made it easy for her to find another guy to put up with her behavior, then she did not learn anything. Which is what this sounds like as she is already getting the gleam in her eye when she views another.

Bottom line, be be a Cuckold, or be a Man.

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suniti
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 12:44 am

If she's losing interest in you, you have two roads to walk. Talk with her on how to resolve this or walk away from this amicably.

I'll be honest, it sounds like you're in denial about her. You assume she'll not cheat on you because....what? She loves you? How many others have those words been told to others only for time to reveal the temptation broke truth that a significant other cheats after swearing they never would. Unless you're willing to sit her down and express your concerns, the only person you're fooling is yourself about all this.

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Céline Rémy
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 12:25 am

We have talked much about it over the weekend. But you may be right about the denial thing as I think about it. I need some alcohol.

For the record I don't put up with her [censored] and I never have. She stopped it a while back after she realized that. This new [censored] is very recent and I am still working on it in my head. Like I said, I thought she was different, but maybe not.
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 1:25 am

I'm not against alcohol, but it won't fix anything, just make it delayed or make it worse. Either accept the possible reality and leave or rail against it and hope things will work out. I'm not banking on the latter though.

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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 4:22 am

My apologies, I misinterpreted what I read. (I assumed "a history of cheating" included you.)

It's been pounded into our heads for centuries, at least, that humans should pair bond. (Says religion.) Looking at it from a purely animalistic view point, and human nature (the fact people do cheat) I feel we are not meant to pair bond. Though I may be wrong, I'll need someone to prove it to me.

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Katy Hogben
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 9:38 am

Some people can pair bond for lives, some people can not. That is the bottom line.

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JUDY FIGHTS
 
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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 7:35 am

Tis true!

Personally, being a lonely guy, wanting companionship, I desire a friend with benefits rather than long term commitments.

I've cheated (when young and foolish) and been cheated on. Can't cheat/be cheated on when it's a friends with benefits situation.

So yeah, speaking for myself, I'm not one of those who can pair bond for life.

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Post » Tue Oct 15, 2013 3:15 am

... and it always takes two. People simply tend to alter to the worse in a relation by a couple of reasons, hardly ever to the better. Sometimes it takes just weeks or months, sometimes years or decades and the show is over cos one of the two is fed up, once and for all.

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