I need some advice and im turning to an internet forum I've been on and off from for a while where I can remain mostly anonymous and get some great insight.

Im going college and a girl I had a huge crush on last year, basically found out about it, I went up to her - long story short she added me on facebook.

I dont have her number as she said "I dont give my number out to boys but Ill add you on facebook."

I see her facebook profile and lets just say shes flirting to 1 or 2 other guys, I immediately stopped liking her.

What I want to ask is this - why do some girls pretend to act so reserved but crave attention to such a great extent? I really can't stand attention seekers and part of me genuinely thinks all girls just talk to guys cos it boosts their ego - don't they get enough of that in secondary school?

Im talking to another girl right now who knows I like her (complimented her a few times, then outright told her it in a fun way)

she seems pretty genuine, but at the same time im paranoid that she just likes the attention I give her and not "me".

Well you'll always find people who crave attention. And I am pretty sure that everyone loves a bit of attention, in varying degrees. I am far from an attention seeker but it feels good when I get some attention from different women. It then depends on how the person reacts to it. I don't suddenly exclude everyone else because a particular person is giving me attention.

Basically there's nothing wrong with her flirting with other guys since there is no commitment with you or anyone else (I'm assuming at least).

But you'll never know if she likes you or if she's just liking the attention without getting to know her a bit more.