So, ever since ever, I've noticed that groups of people always split into groups. Once you're in a group you're in, but if you arnt in that group is really hard to become part of it. Im the kind of person who tries to be liked by everyone, and it really bothers me when im not. I wish this wernt the case but I think I try to be extra nice to people just to get on their good side. The problem is, even if im nice, sometimes im too nice, and most of the time its not even appreciated anyways. I would like to just say f- it and tell people to screw off when they ask for a bothersome favor, but there is a problem with doing this too.

Im a really shy person, I might not seem like it because I guess I put on a kind of act but I dont really feel myself with most people. As a result I think I tend to be a little awkward around groups of people, and then because of this it makes it hard to make some real friends. Sure people are friendly with me, but probably only because im friendly to them, when really they couldnt give a rats ass if they ever see me again.

I guess this is a kind of rant, but its aggravating. It takes a lot to be yourself in front of people, for me at least, and when you try but still dont manage to be a part of any of these "groups" It really is irritating.

Writing things out makes me feel better. Feel free to share your thoughts or similar experiences w/e.

Unfortunately, its hard to socially be a jack of all trades.

I don't really pay attention to "groups"... you can't be yourself if you try to be someone else just to fit in. I try to be nice to people because it's something I like to do, whether they like me or appreciate me is up to them.

That's how I feel on the subject, though I'm probably odd by most standards. :teehee:

People love confidence, folks who can put themselves out there, the alpha male, so to speak. Seriously, just be self confident, everyone will love you. People can feel the confidence in you.

Im workin on it, especially the confidence part, thanks for the comments guys

Yes, I definitely notice the whole clique thing going on. Luckily for me, I'm pretty good with these kinds of things, and manage to get everyone to like me at least a little bit. Main thing is make friends with one person in the group and you're basically in. It's not that hard to achieve when your school has a random seating plan every year and you sorta end up befriending the person sitting next to you anyway.

But it's different in different schools / workplaces / societies in general. Just be yourself, if you get accepted, excellent. If you don't, you don't want to be part of that crowd anyway.

Social acceptance comes from extensive build up of relationships. Everyone wants to be liked by everyone, then everyone began to conflict against each other to try to stand out amongst the norm. Problem is, they often screw up.

It's all about social experience, take your time, learn about how different people, know the underlying reason behind actions. Meditate on them and build up your own character. You cannot satisfy everyone, especially when they have conflicting demands.