Usually when people constantly tell (keyword tell) me to do things, I refuse to do it, and develop a extreme dislike for it.

So many people tell me to play football and I understand how one could SUGGEST for me to do so b/c of the fact that I have the size and power of a football player.

But so many people say "Man you need to play", " I don't see why you didn't play football man, You're too big not to play" or " Come on man, why do you play video games, you should be out on the football field"

But so many people say stuff like this and I've refused to join, And the thing was that I was going to join but so many people kept asking that it has become annoying.

And I realized that this happens anytime people continuously tell me to do something, if one of my parents tells me to the dishes, the more they ask, the more I put it off or just don't do it. Same as homework and projects. And people wanting me to call them/text them.

So do I have some type of mental complex or something?

(Sorry for the repetition of "so many people")

Well, Keep playing Video games and Don't play Football.

We really can't answer your question about if you have a mental complex or something like that, since we are not allowed to give out medical advice on the forums since we are not proffesional doctors. If you are really worried about it, go see your Dr for advice. I am not telling you waht to do but advising you what to do. Should I be saying, Don't go see your Dr and don't ask him or her?

Other than that, I think you just don't like being told what to do and do the opposite. I don't like being told what to do either and if someone says I Can't do something, I usually prove them wrong and do it.

No one likes being nagged, but if you seriously want forum advice for this kind of thing I'd ask reneer. Otherwise, either chalk it up to you negatively reacting to nagging or see ask a professional.

For some things, I can understand. Playing football as a serious thing is a big commitment.

But doing the dishes is another.

Explain to your friends you don't want to play football. Do what your parents ask.

You don't have a mental complex. You're a teenager. (I'm assuming since you said your parents tell you to do the dishes.)

Happens to everyone (I think), you just have to realize that you're disliking something for that specific reason, take a step back, and accept that you're letting stubbornness guide you to do things rather than your own desires, then just think "do I want to do this ?" and if the answer is yes then go do it and if the answer is no then you don't.

Wait sorry, I'll rephrase that. If you want to you can realize that you're disliking something for that specific reason, and if you are up to it you can take a step back, and if you're ever in the mood you can accept you're letting stubbornness guide you to do things rather than your own desires, and you can choose to then just think "do I want to do this ?" and if the answer is yes then go do it and if the answer is no then you don't.

:P

I was going to post earlier. But didn't want to be the first one to say it.

Nope, you're a typical kid. Sounds normal. My 12 year old step-son does the same thing to me and his mother. He gets asked to do something and says ok. Then gets asked to do the same thing an hour later and he says ok. Then gets asked again, and again, and again until I get to my breaking point and do it myself which results in him being grounded and whining about how he's done nothing to deserve being grounded. My reply to him is, "That's the point. You've done nothing. Which is why you're grounded."

No, it does not.

Sounds like being a teenager complex. It wouldn't hurt to try football dude, at least its a lot better for you than video games.

I assume by "mental complex" you mean "mental disorder." Unless you've been reading up on Freud or Jung.

It sounds to me like you're suffering from a relatively common disorder that happens shortly after puberty called Adolescence Annoyance Disorder. Or, in other words, you're just being a normal teenager. My recommendation is to go outside and socialize, as well as talking to your parents about the chores you have to do at home.

And if in fact this is really bothering you, find your local mental health professional and schedule an appointment.

(And no, there is no such thing as Adolescence Annoyance Disorder. I made it up. You won't find it in the ICD or the DSM. I am not (yet) a mental health professional. Do not take what I say as medical advice, yadda yadda yadda.)

It's called being recalcitrant. It's fancy pants speak for strong minded.. roughly..


sort of..


okay, it means pig headed stubborn to a fault.


My mom says look up the word and you'll see a picture of me, al though I contest that.

Having people tell you things you should do can be a nag, but in another way, it is a way to find out about yourself. Some suggestions will appeal to you and some not. Some you might never have thought before. It's up to you to see if it fits. About chores, maybe you can try to establish a schedule with your folks. I don't know, say they want you to do the dishes, you agree but at a precise time defined by you (realistic), if it's ok with them. But you really have to commit, otherwise they will come back at you and it'll be YOUR fault. That being said, I don't have teenagers, nor children, at home and can't speak from experience exept my own memories. Warning! Moral : Chores have to be done by everyone, it is the price to live in a society. End/moral.

Don't play football.

Do not play football.

I'm telling you not to do it man. Just don't play it. Any thoughts of playing football should be erased from your mind.

The same thing happens to me, I have developed a dislike for facebook and one of the reasons is because people keep saying "Oh go on join, it will be fun". I will not be peer pressured into doing anything.

Sounds like you're becoming a man.

What Reneer said.

*sigh* it actually could, I don't like alot of people on the team. And alot of people on team do homosixual things( no discrimination to gay people, I mean...)...by that I mean they'll pants someone and grab their junk or in one case they jumped this kid while he was on the toilet, sounds funny as all heck, but still it could hurt to play football. And the thing is, is that I DO NOT WANT TO PLAY FOOTBALL. At least if I play/ make video games, my life span wont be shortened(Statistically speaking).

You hear the story about the 2 kids who died b/c they were playing football? But that was b/c of the heat, but I don't think you understand how much things can affect you in football. But besides all of that, none of that is what is stopping me from playing, I don't want to play football for the same reason I don't want to go to school in a dress, I don't want to.

Sport is good for you, so it's definitely a good idea to do something. But if you don't like football you shouldn't play football. Plenty of other sports around.

I don't have a problem with socializing, and I actually do love going outside, but none of my friends really just like don't different things, its always football/basketball.I just don't like being forced to do things that I don't want to do. Like I like shooting hoops for fun not, but some of my friends are always like "man lets get 2 on 2", I dont want to so I havent really even played as much since they kept bothering me about it. I don't think this is a teenage thing, I don't really think I have a complex, I was just asking because I was wondering if that could be complex of some sort. I just really disobey what people try to force me to do when I don't want to do it. This is beyond a teenage thing. But I'm fine with obeying the law and moral codes. It's just a problem with consistent nagging.

Sounds perfectly normal to react to people who telling you what to do in a negative way, one thing is work or school where you have to sometimes,otherwise not so much.
Had one person telling me " have it done wednesday" for volountarily effort to playtest a mod-thingy of his,I didn′t do that freaking test for him :banghead:

Have the same with facebook and whatever is popular at different times people telling me I should get, no way
Had practically all my older relatives nagging about a haircut for long time,have a habit to let it grow quite long,eventually I get that bloody haircut but by then my relatives have given up :biggrin:
Guess it is part of being older,wasn′t as stubborn when I was younger I belive (that is what I go for anyway).

Same with me dude, except with twitter. My friend kept asking me to get one, and then everyone talking about it and it was getting on my nerves and then my original who bugged me about getting one, continued to do be a pest to me so now I refuse to get one. And she told me to check out her twitter before she made it private and all she was doing was posting every 5 minutes about things that nobody cared about. Dumb stuff like "About to bake a cake", " Man this cake is taking a while", " Finally my cake is done", and finally " wow this cake is good"

*sigh* depressing, not really, LOL at her need to feel important.

Sounds like most people I know/knew between the ages of ~13 and ~25. If you're in that age group I'd say it's pretty normal. :shrug: I think rebellious feelings must be part of some stage of late adolescent/early advlt psychological development or something. When you're a kid everything is decided for you, and when you're an advlt you (hopefully) evaluate situations and make decisions for yourself. The way I see it it's kinda like your brain trying to teach you to make decisions for yourself, but in the process some people end up at the extreme end of it.