Probably not the best place to come for advice on this, but this is honestly happening to me, and I can't get over it.

This is gonna be a bit of a long post and what some people might consider 'mushy' , I'll put a 'tldr' at the bottom for those who don't want to read it

I spent a ton of time with this girl, she was single at the time, the way she acted around me, and the way I acted when I was with her, I truthfully 100% thought we had something between us even though we never made it 'facebook official' or anything like that. I mean, we held hands wherever we went, and whenever we were just sitting around whether it was at a park, movie theater, or one of our places watching tv or a movie, she would lean against my chest, put her arms around me, I would put my arm around her, and I would even kiss her. I was always there for her, and I just really did think we had somethin special goin on between us. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere, she sets her facebook thing as 'in a relationship' with some guy that I had never heard of, she never once mentioned him to me at all, or brought him up. It really hurt, and I still care about her alot, I have feelings for her, and yes I would even say I love her, but I know now that she obviously doesn't feel that way about me, and I can't get over it, I keep thinking about her constantly, and I still feel the same way I used to about her.


TLDR: I really do love this girl, but she doesn't feel the same way about me, need help getting over it

The best way to get over someone that doesn't feel the same way for you is simply this: Realize she DOESN'T CARE. If she doesn't care, why on Earth would you care about her?


To her, you aren't worth it. Why is she to you? Realize that, and think on that.

Get another girlfriend.

Nice. You know that might not be the case right? Maybe all the tip toeing around and never solidifying the relationship or making it official made her think she wasn't anything serious to you either, so she met some one else. Harsh, but it happens, and just because it happened doesnt mean she doesnt or didn't ever care for you. Just distract yourself, be with friends and engage yourself with as many things as possible if it's bothering you that much, keep your mind off things. It'll happen quicker than you might think. Chances are it probably wont be the first time something like this happens so don't get too hung up on it if you can help it.

Have you talked to her about any of this?

I prescribe 500cc of manning the [censored] up

If she doesn't feel the same way about him, then he's not worth her time to feel that way about him. That doesn't mean she hates him. He's just not "that guy" for her. So why spend time worrying about someone when they aren't worrying about you.

Harsh, yes. But that's life. You're right, there may be some underlining theme we don't know about because the OP chose to not tell us. But based on what we know, that's the harsh reality of the situation.

Might need to up the dose.

Seriously. Go talk to her. Facebook isn't real. It may just be a joke. Talk to her and tell her how you feel.

To piggy back off of this, and as seen no know one else has said it, if you think she might like after you talk to her. JAHO!

Just go and talk to her about it. Facebook isn't a good way of communicating things. It never has been.

This sounds very Familiar, although the girl actually likes me back, i just can't get to telling her how i feel, life is hard sometimes

For you I'm onna have to give 2500cc of man the [censored] up along with 250cc of what the he'll are you waiting for

I question your credentials as a doctor wynatt..although I seem to be agreeing with you regardless. As you were crazed man with a set of needles. :spotted owl:

To quote Garth Algar, "Just get over it and go out with somebody else."

Yeah it svcks....sorry to hear.

The unfortunate thing for you is that time will help you get over this. There's no magic bullet here. There's not special pill you can take that will magically take away the pain you're in.

What you can do is work on yourself. It's been said, and I totally agree with this, that the best form of revenge is great living.

You can get into better shape. Working out helps your emotions and helps your body look better.

You can eat healthier foods, get more sleep, keep your "space" (house, room, car, whatever) clean, spend time with friends and try not to talk about her all the time.

Reaching out to others who are hurting is also something that helps - if you have friends or family going through hard times ask them how they are doing, invite them to spend time with you.....that can really help you also.

And remember that no matter how bad you feel, others have been there also.

Oh that's it! Someone's gotten themselves 500 mg of shut the hell up!

Burn everything you have that reminds you of her. Honestly it really helped me when I got over someone like 6 years ago. And don't just cut her off cold turkey. Gradually let her go. If you just all of a sudden leave her out of your life, you will be heart broken every time you see her again. aaannnd DON'T BE CUDDLY WITH HER ANYMORE. when you are with her just start acting like friends, then acquaintances. Little steps my man.

Chopper Reid ?

three words: jello swimming pool

I don't know what you mean but that sounds awesome.