I don't know how many of you remember me posting that my great grandma died a couple months ago, but now it was my Great Grandpa's turn to go. I know that they were old, but I mean seriously. I am done with deaths in the family now.

One reason I feel worse about my great grandpa dying is that my middle name is his first name (It was named after him), and I look almost exactly like he did when he was my age. I don't know how to act because I don't want to be a little wimp around my girlfriend, and my family lives three hours away. So where do I turn? Here.. There's my story. Just needed to get it out.

I don't think it's wimpy for a man to grieve over a lost family member. :shrug:

You're lucky you're so close to your family. My grandmother passed last week, but I can't feel sad about it because we only ever visited her every few months. Be happy that you can feel sad.

Grieving about the death of a loved one isn't being a "wimp" it just shows that you're a good person

When my dad past away it hurt so much I could physically feel it. Oh, I cried a lot

It might help to let the GF in on your emotions, she may be able to help a little

Sort of how it was with me.

That's horrible, sorry to hear it man.

I bet your great Grandpa had to live with alot of hurt after your great Grandma died, I'm sure he went peacefully knowing he would be going somewhere they could be together again. There is no reason you shouldn't mourn their deaths, doesn't make you any less of a man, probably makes you more of a man if you can show your emotions.

So grieve man, and try and remember your great Grandpa for the good life he had, the good person he was, and the good times you had together, then move on like he'd want you to.

I understand, bro. My grandfather passed away just a few years ago, so I remember the feeling. All I can say is that it's perfectly natural to grieve, so it's fine if you do so. Anyone who says otherwise is just insecure.

Don't worry about looking like a wimp. Trying to hide your feelings or emotions can only make things worse in the longrun. Deal with them now, and get them out in the open.

When my father passed away I was an absolute wreck for the first year. Eventually you learn to deal with the loss, and the pain of that loss subsides over time, but will not go away altogether. 8 years later, I still miss my dad, but it doesn't hurt like it did back then.

I agree with all of this. I don't think it's too unusual to lose two grandparents in quick succession - something very similar happened after my great granddad died; my great grandma passed shortly after even though she was relatively healthy for her age. I know that doesn't make your suffering any less, but like Sivartus said, remember what a long, fulfilled life they had, and all of the great memories you have of them.

But really, there is NOTHING wimpy about grieving. At all. I really don't think your girlfriend is going to think less of you for having emotions.

I lost both of my grandparents on my fathers side this year, my grandad in February, and my grandma just a month or so ago. My grandad died of pancreatic cancer suddenly, and the news of Steve Jobs dying of the same has made me quite emotional. My grandma on the other hand died of pneumonia, after surviving through about 6 heart attacks, and had well advance dementia, that was a little easier to deal with, as no one wanted to see her suffering so much, especially after grandads death. They were married for 56 years.

It's impacted my degree quite a bit, I've had to drop my project for now and need to do another semester because I've been getting so stressed. It has made me better as a person though, I think anyway.

Aye. One of mine I only ever met as a little kid (though she died while I was an advlt... some blame falls on both of us, I suppose :shrug:). The other I saw a little bit as a child, as she was much closer geographically, and dealt with a bit more in my late teens, including living with her for a time. Unfortunately, I can't say her death was a loss to the world: she was just not a good person. The people she cultivated as 'friends' thought she was lovely... but in truth she was a shallow, self-centred, and manipulative (easy to conceal that sort of thing if you pick your marks and they're not around you all the time, but family is tougher ). I'm not after any sympathy from anyone, BTW.

So, Steptim, the upside of being upset is that you've got something to be upset about. I imagine you enjoyed the time you spent with them, and have plenty of good memories. Hold those in your mind, and feel blessed that you had a chance to know your great grandparents* .




An' if she does, she's probably not worth having :shrug:.

Hey Septim, I'm really sorry for your loss, and I hope you're ok. There's nothing wrong with letting your emotions out in this situation - your GF is hardly going to think any less of you!

Sorry to hear your loss, but you shouldn't feel like a wimp. It's human to grieve over a lost family member.


I agree with this. After my uncle and papa died earlier this year I wasn't that sad because I barely ever saw them.