Hey guys,

I won't bore you to tears with the backstory, but I will summarise...

I met a girl when I was 15 and fell deeply in love. We stayed together for 3 years, until the age of 18, before she cheated on me. I couldn't forgive her, broke it off and everything svcked. When it came to the point that I felt I could forgive her, she wasn't interested. When it came to the point where she wanted back in, I wasn't interested. This back and forth carried on for a year until we finally agreed to not really see much of each other anymore. I haven't seen her in 6 months and, consciously at least, that doesn't bother me one bit! I'm well over her, and I hold no candle for her anymore. Happy days...

Summary over, here's my predicament:

Recently, she's been appearing in my dreams...every night, without fail, for the last 2 weeks. The situation changes each night, but she's always there with me and, in the dream, we are together. My brains throws us into some very strange situations, none of which draw from any kind of memories I have of us (I certainly don't remember gatecrashing the Superbowl!). It's all purely fictional, the only real factor being her.

The weird thing is, nothing has actually happened recently to trigger this. I haven't heard from her at all, there hasn't been any kind of special day that I would associate with her, nobody has even mentioned her to me...it's just come out of nowhere! I'd normally just ignore it, but it made me late for work this morning. I woke up to my alarm, as usual, but I felt like something was missing...so I snoozed the alarm and went back to sleep, back to this amazing dream...only to be woken up an hour later by my boss asking where the hell I was!

It just feels so real whilst I'm there, and it's gotten to the point where I dislike waking up! I look forward to going to sleep and being with her. Long story short? I'm scared I'm falling in love with her again, but through dreaming.

I'm not entirely sure what I'm expecting/needing to hear really, but it'd be nice to know if anybody else has been through this...maybe you've done the same thing? Or perhaps there's someone who knows more than I do about Psychology that might know/understand what's going on?

Sorry for the wall of text (at least it's got punctuation, eh?) but it's something I had to kinda get off my chest...and you guys are all great anyway

Alex

Solution: Play Dark Souls for 15 hours every day for a few days. I guarantee you will dream about nothing else.

I heard a quote once that love is wanting to stay awake because your reality is finally better than your dreams. I think you should call her.

Well if we're talking scientific psychology (of which there isn't a whole lot), then dreams do not conclusively have a defined significance. However, there is something to be said for non-scientific psychology, just because it can prove to be useful in understanding humans and our behavior. (i.e. political science is useful despite the fact it is not a "science" per se)

My best guess would be that the first dream felt really nice, you thought about her somewhat throughout the day, so you dreamt about her the second night, it felt nice, and the process propagated itself for a while. This is coming from someone who has some experience with psychology at the university level.

In the end, you decide what to make of this! If dreaming of her makes you realize you want her back because of all the good times you had, then give her a call, but if you feel that these are merely residual thoughts that decided to pop up now, don't do a thing.

My two cents.