I find any follower annoying, being a sneak character.
I recommend Annekka, she is the best companion I've had for sneak so far, though like any other follower if she spots danger she will charge in, what I do is make her wait inside the entrance of some place and scout out any immediate danger and kill it then go back for her.
I'd love a real time hotkey to command followers, a key for wait and a key for follow, it would be much better than having to open dialogue.
A little of topic, sorry.