Resting in beds grants an 8 hr increase for learning skills. Bedrolls 5%. Beds owned/rented 10%. Beds you own w/spouse 15%. #skyrimsecrets

So, is marriage worth it? (Playing through without exploits.)

Dunno never see my wife sleeping and the rare chance I have I don't get the bonus.

Its scary when Lydias following me and I sleep in the bed and wake up. Shes probably stood there all night.

JUST. PLAIN. CREEPY.

I have heard the same about Ysolde, and others in the game. My redguard married Senna/Priestess Dibella. He likes her, but she has never slept since the first night. He has never gotten this bonus from her. Only the 10% well rested. Have moved from Whiterun to Solitude, to Markarth. Left the housecarls in other residences to be alone. Tried everything conceivable, but it just doesn't seem to work.

Can anyone identify "any" spouse where this bonus is working correctly, so that my next character can make a better marital choice?

I approve of this threads title, may it never change.

After I cured my Lycanthropy, I still seem to be incapable of getting this bonus (Beast blood message does not appear, however). It's a minor nuisance, seeing how I'm working on getting some of my lower skills to 100.

Seconded.

To be honest I haven't bothered to get married yet. Turns out most of my characters are like me and find the entire concept of picking one woman to throw it to for the rest of your life (or, more realistically until we get sick of one another) utterly moronic. Whatever bonus it provides isn't worth my Imperial getting tied down until the inevitable divorce/death of spouse under shady circumstances.

You also can't get the bonus if you got Lover's Stone active, as the bonus is identical.

Isn't 15% spouse bonus currently bugged? I thought I read that on the wiki. Spouses never sleep at the moment.

... well, that explains it. I've been using Lover's Stone. Now I guess I can switch to a different stone and just use the well-rested perk bonus. Thank you.

Edit: derp perk.
Edit the Second: @Cap: It depends on the spouse. I know for a fact that Derkeethus spends most of his time derping around somewhere in the middle of nowhere instead of being at home, which is why I married Scouts-Many-Marshes, who stays at home 24/7, does some alchemy, and sleeps in my bed.

Ok... this is what I was trying to get to.. If it is a spousal bug in the game, or if my choice/Senna had issues..

This is the only bug I found:

"If you move your spouse directly into your own home, the Lover's Comfort effect may not activate correctly on sleeping. This can be fixed by asking them to move back to their original home, resting there to activate the effect, then moving back. Potential spouses who stayed at inns before marriage may not actually sleep in those places, but still if you pay spend a night at the inn, Lover's Comfort should activate."

Seeing as I did this with both my spouses maybe that's my issue as to why they will never sleep.

I've seen random dudes leave my house in Whiterun when I get back.Seems like they must have gotten a bonus, lol.

Remember though, spouses can give you extra revenue and act as a convenient store.

Cool..Thanks for the suggestion. I did move her into my home directly after the wedding. I am not using Lovers stone or other conflicts. Her other dialog, and shop earnings are fine. She slept the 1st night (no bonus though), then never slept again.
I have not tried living in her original home first, and will give that a try. Unfortunately, my choice (Senna Dibella/Priestess) may be more complicated since males cannot normally enter the inner sanctum of the Temple of Dibella where she lived. My redgaurd had earned that right by completing the Dibella Temple quest, and becoming an "agent of dibella" before he married her. Hope he still has access. Thanks for the suggestion.

Sir, this did the "trick." We moved back to the Chapel of Dibella. Since it was only a short walk from our Markarth home, he actually followed her. Immediately upon entering, the objective for visiting your spouse's home cleared. I didnt even know the objective existed. Never noticed it in my journal. She did not sleep. She followed her normal ritual of praying to Dibella. 24 hrs later, I suggested we move back to Markarth. Upon arrival, I went to sleep, and received loving comfort. She was in the room, but not in the bed. Later that night, he noticed she was asleep in the bed around 1am. Joined her, and again received lovers comfort and 15% skill buff for 8hrs. She is "fixed." Thank you.

As far as the OP query, I understand many characters dont' like marriage, or just prefer to go it alone. I felt that way in FO3, because I could not keep dogmeat/Clover alive. But, my character likes the followers in Skyrim. He battles the elements with Lydia and Jordis at his side. He leaves Senna safely at home to supplement his earnings, and provide restoration, prayer and comfort. As a bonus, he can change residences from Markarth to Dibella frequently since they are so close together. It gives him a chance to just walk and spend time with her. He thinks she is extremely sixy when she prays.

I've never slept in the game.

Only for DBH

Awesome! I'll have to try the same when I get home today. Who knew there was such an objective? It's not in the journal. Weird.

Very true. It is also not documented in the 650 page strategy guide. I have seen other threads where many folks are experiencing this problem. You would have thought maybe the mods, or someone from Beth might have given us a hint, because several folks have been experiencing this.

I'm also experiencing this same bug with Mjoll. Looks like we'll be making a trip to Riften and with Aerin the voyeur.