are any of the poisons strong enough to kill?
Depends on the person's HP of course, but you might be curious to know crafted poisons can get significantly stronger than generic ones you can buy from vendor.
I think the base poison does somewhere around 50-60 damage with 100 skill and all relevant perks. Crafting gear can also help. Certain ingredients also boost the potency:
Deathbell = 150% strength
River Betty = 250%
Crimson Ninroot = 300%
Also note that you can stack the Ravage Health OR Lingering Damage Health effect to these poisons as well for better results.
"After investing in the Poisoned perk you can reverse-pickpocket poisons onto targets to damage them. Giving multiple poisons to a target will make them "take" the poisons until they are either all gone or the target dies. Remaining poisons will be left on the corpse and are retrievable."
In my experience this is not true. Only one poison was consumed, though I had planted ten. I was using Frostbite Venom; maybe it works differently for "real" poisons.
how many perks in the sneak tree do you need? and what level im playing a pure mage so have been ignoring basicaly 90% of the perk trees
You need 40 skill and 3 perks. Two of those perks are on the way to Perfect Touch.