If going by D&D lore, a true Drow Elf would never join the race of men or other elves or any race that walked under the sun. They may plot to join them as a way to subjugate them if the Drow in question felt confident enough to accomplish this task, however its is unlikely they would ever be trusted. Drow hate all races that walk in the sun and usually kill them on sight if they encounter them.
Granted, Elder Scrolls lore is much more forgiving. But the series did dumb down some of the evil races a bit. For insntance, Orcs are supposed to be nocturnal and only carnivores and they should not be allowed in cities of men or elves. But in Elder Scrolls games, this is different. So play how you like.
Edit: Dark Elves and Orcs should be be granted a permanent night vision that can be toggled on or off. They're only active at night anyway.
this is elderscrolls, not a knock off of D&D (this is much more fun anyway

), it has its own lore so no need to go about lore from something else. anythign can fit in an rp, mine is an argonian assasin who joins the stormcloaks because he hates the empire (thats the short version, the long version is long and some small details are always changing or beign added, so i'll spare you)