Just to give you an idea I have 2 - eVGA 560 FTW+ in SLI at 1 GB each (2GB total) and when playing TES it will load the primary card to MAX @1037MB or 1.037GB and then load the secondary to 250-300MB. so it uses a healthy amount on VRAM. The max I have had it use is 1.4GB between the 2 cards and no slow down noticed while in game, I have the high res texture pack installed, no other mods.
Off topic ..but hate to have to tell you this...IF your cards are truly in sli...they don't add...its still 1 GB even if you had (4) 1 GB cards...still 1 GB. SLI is INterlaced...one card draws one line...other card draws other line...when in SLI both cards should use the exact same amount of ram....
Kinda unrelated question.... But when I alt+tab Skyrim dies.... any way to fix that?
Are you going around twice??....First ALT/TAB you get to windows.....Next when you go back to the game you alt/tab ..you will see a blank screen...ALT/TAB your way around again to get back to the game ...
I do that a dozen times from full screen ...works every time.