Skyrim already supports LAA (large address aware) natively. Unfortunately AFAIK LAA only allows an exe to use up to 4GB of RAM, so you're hitting or getting close to that memory cap and getting weird glitches like infinite loading screens.
I don't think you'll see a patch to let the game support more than 4GB, since 4GB of RAM is more than enough for any program outside of some heavy duty rendering software and the like. In your case I'd definitely suggest cutting a few mods out to tone down the RAM usage...30 follower mods? If that's 30 individual followers, uh...yikes. No wonder you're using that much RAM.
