Do you know anyone who always has something wrong with them and every day it's something else? Not hypochondriacs, just small, insignificant stuff. Their car started acting up. They have an earache the next day. They're just tired the day after that.

I love my girlfriend to death, but she's definitely guilty of this. Her body is always achy in some way. Whenever she texts me on her lunch break, I'm afraid to ask how her day is going because she's going to say something negative. I'm not the only one who's noticed it, either. I think it stems from a couple years ago when she had a bad stretch of health related issues (jaw problems which required 2 surgeries, mono for a year, asthma until recently), so her brain is extremely tuned in to what's going on with her body and she feels the need to communicate every little thing. I've brought this to her attention and she knows it bothers me and is trying to tune it down. It really has gotten to the point where, when she mildly injures herself (stubs her toe, bangs her knee against the table), I laugh because it's such a common occurrence, I'm running out of cares to give.

Yes, this is a rant thread in disguise. Muwahaha!

Must be awful for you, having to put up with people not being cheerful all the time.

God, that's pretty much everyone in my school's Colorguard. They're always complaining about something. ALWAYS!

One day it's "Just got home, what a horrible day :c" , "I have a headache, ugh" , "My stomach hurts" , "I feel so alone...". And one some days they'll list everything "wrong" with them. "Ugh, just got home. My feet hurt, I've got a headache, my parents are yelling at me, I'm hungry and have no plans for tonight... Sometimes, I just feel so alone in the world." Ugh I just want to tell them to shut up because it's ALWAYS SOMETHING! There isn't a day that someone is complaining about something. They all want to seem like the "victim" and have people feel sorry for them. I hate it. Especially when they act as if they have depression or anorexia or something like that. They just love to be the "one with the problem".

I've told my wife a time or three that "I'm sick and tired of you being sick and tired."

I'm told i'm the most negative and cynical person ever by my girlfriend every single day. So I cerainly hope i'm not guilty of this crime. I think thats the just me in the apathetic department. I'm not one to moan about my problems though... maybe sometimes

I'm guilty of making bad jokes though. Hypercondriacs do bother me also, same with people who insist they are fine when they have an arm off from a car crash and are bleeding over the floor...

[censored].. Why did you have to make a thread about this?

Now that I think about it my girlfriend does the same crap..

I think it's irrational to expect someone to be cheerful a set amount of time, certainly since I'm not always my normal, cheerful self. Last night I was foaming at the mouth trying to fix my issues with Adobe Flash.

It's along the lines of what Dalek said. It's the people who go home after worker school and tweet on their blog about how hooooorrible their day was because "he didn't say hi to me when I smiled at him. I wish he would notice me..."

I dont moan about it, or anything much really, but i do always seem to have a sore back and pull muscles or do something to it. Is a fairly regular occurence, though only the odd one is quite painfull, most of the time its just a slight pain.
I am guilty of just saying its fine though and trying to carry on when i would be better just taking a day off and trying to let it recover. Not a good thing struggling on with a sore back when your a construction worker
Also guilty of refusing to go to the doctors because "they wont help anyway", or not taking painkillers because some knock me unwell.

But at least i dont moan

One thing that really annoys me though is when people have the small insignifcant stuff go wrong, like cant find their keys or phone, and they go shouting/ranting and storming about the place looking for them. Funnily enough, "Calm down" always seems to have the opposite effect

I do it a lot. I complain about my back hurting, or my head hurting or my stomach hurting. Mostly it's cause I don't want to be at work though and if I feel the need, I throw it in there early so I can leave if I want to later on. Though since I need the paycheck, I usually don't and it's just me complaining about my back. But it does actually hurt, enough for me to comment about it.

This doesn't bother me. A weird thing I noticed about me is that I never really get angry.... maybe this means i'm due a monumental tantrum sometime in the future. I prefer being laid back =)

Lol, same here, my friends even say sometimes that I "have no emotion" because I refuse to get angry at really anything.

I do the opposite, even things aren't okay, I'm just as cheery as ever. And people who are like that, I try to cheer them up as best I can, but if they get annoying about it, I'd probably start avoiding them. I don't really know anyone as bad as that though, so I'm safe for now. I'm not saying everyone I know has a perfect life, but they sure as hell don't complain too much.

That's how I am. I could complain about a ton of things, but there's really no reason to.

Yeah, I try as hard as I can to stay positive during tribulations but a bulk of the time it feels like ice-skating uphill. A very jarring task indeed and often it gets the better of me.

Usually I just say: "If it isn't one thing, it's the other". Oddly enough though, I harbor most of the negativity and keep it to myself, I'm actually very positive when it comes to helping other people out. If only I could find a way to turn some of that back on me lol.

I tend to be too cheerful when I am going through a bad time. Usually because when I am having a rough time I want to be left alone and I figure no one will ask me what is wrong with me if I look happy. Unfortunately friends and family have picked up on this. When things are going well i make small complaints every once in awhile at most. I tend to find complaining distasteful and view it as an annoying behavior. Sometimes however it is those that are not complaining that are the most worrisome. I think a good balance is necessary. People who are happy go lucky all the time are almost as annoying as those who complain all the time.

I think this is something you either have to accept (with compromise) or reject, the latter in which you would tell her

You can give your opinion, and that's it. I think this is a bit of a special case in conflicting personal issues

I understand how disturbing it can be, though. I once dated someone who was constantly negative, and that really brought me down. However, I think your case isn't so bad, and you should be fine accepting and tolerating it, i.e. going along with it, but in moderation

If she has legitiment health issues, it tends to really wear on people and they tend to become rather negative in general. There are days when my health gets the best of me and I'm just so sick and tired of "putting on a happy face" and "svcking it up" for the people around me. Especially when I feel like absolute garbage and people won't shut up about their non-sense. (omg, I totally broke my nail... I couldn't get the shoes I wanted... etc.) Or they keep wanting me to do something and saying "no thanks" doesn't work. Sometimes, you just need to vent and have a pity party. (Long-term health issues can make you extremely depressed which can actually compound aches and pains.)

If she's just a complainer for no apparent reason, it's usually because it's a habit. They don't know how to talk about anyone or anything but their problems or they do it without even thinking about it.

What?

Yeah, I've known some like that. Usually it becomes a habit after some serious health issue period in their life, or something. Kinda like your thoughts, I think. I know after a couple of those times myself, I tended to harp on health more for a little bit after...then it would stop.

But at least I can sympathize with someone's aches and pains or experiences. What I find more annoying are the ones who constantly talk about how the world is out to get them, and everything bad that happens to them is everyone else's fault, the government's fault, work's fault, the cops, the stupid laws, etc etc. I mean, we all think like that sometimes, but y'know the types I mean.

*glass shattering*

Yes i do know someone its me, but theres a difference between people who moan about small nuisance complaints and people who really have a decent reason to complain, i hate whiners, people who never have anything much wrong with them and they get one tiny misfortune and blow it out of proportion over and over and over

Isn't it possible that your girlfriend is just a frail person? From your talk of the surgeries it seems like her poor health was legit.

Pfft, that's just a flesh wound. I've had worse.

You know there's Google. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Color_guard_(flag_spinning) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Color_guard

tragedy as much as comedy has been a source of entertainment and interest for thousands of years.

This describes my last relationship pretty well I believe. Every damn day something was wrong... course, it later turned out that 90% of the stuff said on their part wasn't true, but point being, I do understand what its like to be stuck with someone that is to damn negative about everything. Worst part is when they try to take it out on you.

That being said, if someone was to be like that to me these days, I would just top them.

"My knee is sore."

"My co-workers dog got ran over yesterday. By the way, this lunch is great. What did you put in it?"