If only just big words made you look elitist. These days, I go into chat rooms and simply using correct punctuation causes everyone participating to treat me like some snot-nosed grammar nazi. I'd like a broader vocabulary just so my creative writing isn't at the 8th grade level anymore.
True, there are some forums where you must always use 100% correct perfect stylized punctuation or you're written off as some slack-jawed unintelligent redneck yolkal. On the other side of the coin as you say, if you use good grammar and correct punctuation you're written off as some grammar nazi elitist snob.
Took me about a year or two in order to familiarize myself with the beth forums to make sure I don't slip up. People here seem to be a bit more tolerant and don't immediately pounce on you if you miss use something.
http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/39167.html - Stephen King.
Words to live by, I use a thesaurus on occasion, but only to broaden words so i'm not repeating things. Annoys the reader, and me the writer, to use the word evil 10 times when you can insert different meanings. However, when you deal with words like "
intransigency" and "
contumacious" it just makes you out to be an ass imho. Don't mind fancy language but I do feel that people make up words just to make them sound more intelligent.