I tried rejoining the party multiple ways... by possessing a rat and using the ducts, by going out to the balcony and reentering through the front door, and by blinking down out of site and strolling into the hall. Each time, even when they didn't see me come down, the guests went on alert when I entered the hall.
Did I stay away too long? or is there a bug? Do not really want to load a much earlier save... and I DO want to seduce lady Boyle and deliver her to her lover, if possible!