ok, so i wanted to purchase the awesome house in windhelm. i completed blood on ice, then dumbly went and gave jarl ulfric his war axe from whiterun immediately afterwards. it wasn't giving me the option to purchase the house and when i went back to whiterun i realized i could no longer get into the town because i'd started the civil war. well, lydia along with all my money and most all my possessions are in my whiterun house. so i reloaded back to BEFORE all that and began the blood on ice quest again. (unfortunately i deleted prior saves from before starting the civil war quests, dang!) i have completed blood on ice now. i went back to jorleif. he thanked me for solving the murders, but still hasn't offered hjerim for me to purchase! if i try to talk to jarl ulfric, he only wants the axe and i don't want to start the war.
so can i not buy the house now? does anyone know if this is a glitch or i'm missing something?