Hey. since the 1.4 patch i have not been able to enter my home (Proudspire Manor). it just stays at the loading screen with no picture, or that random trivia thing that goes with the picture. Any ideas? I havnt been playing much at all because of that. and its quite annoying.

Come on guys. i could really use some help!

I am guessing that this is a saved game prior to 1.4 patch, and you followed the important note regarding 1.4 and old saves. Meaning you saved the game after installing the patch, and used a new save game. I experience certain circumstances as if it was the first intances I am accessing features in the game, i.e., purchasing items. During the inital gameplay, you would get tutorials on trading etc...My theory is that you may have to purchase your house again...or it could be an introduced bug in 1.4. Try talking to the steward in Solitude to see if you need to re-purchase your house.

Nope. that didnt work. ):

have you tried both entrances?

Sounds like the old "dead cell" glitch from Fallout 3, heard of few instances of it in Skyrim but it appears to be rarer. Essentially something in the cell you're trying to enter is corrupted and so can't be loaded leading to either an infinite load screen or at worst case scenario, an outright crash. Look back at the Fallout 3 forum for the "Jefferson Memorial Glitch" and you'll see how bad it can be when a quest area is affected.

I regret to report that this is one of the many glitches in Fallout 3 that never received official recognition from Bethesda and as such was never fixed, the only workaround that the community ever came up with (for consoles) was reverting to an older save or restarting. Sorry for your loss.

I had the exact same thing happen to Breezehome, post patch. Nothing will fix it, I've tried everything.
I went and got the house in Riften instead, which works fine. However, I have an awful lot of good stuff stuck in Breezehome. It's extremely annoying though, and not really what anyone could describe as a fix.
I'll certainly be waiting before buying anymore Bethesda games again. If they're the same, I won't be buying. The only way this situation will change is to hit them in the only place they care, the pocket. As long as their games sell well, they won't change anything. Why should they?