i didnt marry her i married Aela the huntress, but she has to like you first. do favors for her and if she is willing to follow you then she will marry you.
Thats the problem. I did her quest and she now has no other talking options. Wiki even says she is bugged, but the fix they provided doesent work either.
Maybe there is a quest involving her... hmm....
This svcks cause she is the only marriagable high elf. My proud altmer would never breed with lesser races so this is ruining the game for me kinda.
No no, she is marriageable. She has dialogue for it. The quest you need to run is the one where she asks you to wear her fancy clothes for the Jarl. Try the "setrelationshiprank 4" command again after you do that quest.
EDIT: If running her quest+first command doesn't work, this is the command to force her into the marriage faction: "addfac 19809 1"
Tried both. I did complete her quest to wear the clothes. Typical that the ONE npc I had planned to marry is bugged. Hoping the first major patch will fix it unless there is another solution? :/
Edit: Could it be some trick to it like having to talk to he at a particular time of day?
Last question, could be Im just a noob but.... when typing "setrelationshiprank player 4" am I supposed to type in the NPCs name as player?
"Player" just indicates the target of "setrelationshiprank."
What I would do is
Make sure you have the right sister.
Double check that the amulet is equipped.
Make sure that you're targeting the correct thing when you input the console commands
Make sure your console commands aren't 'kicking back' invalid responses.
Trial and error. The console commands work, so checking another NPC to see if you get the same results will help you determine where the source of the error lies.