So some of you may have read an earlier post about my girlfriend and I having troubles because she was getting eyes for another man. Well I wake up yesterday morning and read a text on her phone from that dude that said "When are we going to dinner?" After that I went to church, then came back and dumped all of her [censored] on the living room floor.

But wait theres more.

I come to my friend's place cause he has something important to tell me. A friend of his saw my girlfriend cheating on me with a completely different guy. Not even this dinner date guy. He's her friend that likes her as well. Shes been hanging out with him a lot more. I was getting suspicious but she made a damn good effort to make sure I didn't think she was cheating.

Well thats all. Now I just bear through the next year I suppose.

My cousin broke a window for this exact thing. Still got done for violence.

OP, move one. She is not at all worth it. She's just going to hurt others and herself in the long run. If you've been a good partner, then there's nothing to worry about on your side. Cut the dead weight.

Obviously in the future you may have trouble trusting another lady, but that's okay. It's not unhealthy to be cautious, but don't let it lead your actions.

Stay strong, bro

Thats what everyone has been telling me. But it's so hard. At this very moment I could impart my feelings through my fists on this mans face. Thats hard not to do...

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Define cheating? - it's subjective. Does she expect you to be jealous of her associating with men and is trying to avoid confrontation? I haven't read your other thread, but the info in this one can be taken many ways.

We live together. We were having problems before because she was getting horny for another guy. Things were going better though because she was leading me to believe they were, little did I know she had been getting it on with a whole different guy, not the one she was getting horny for and going to dinner with. And get this, these 2 guys are friends.

You did see this one coming. Still svcks though. Just remember, it won't take a year to get over the gut punch you just had, more like a week or two as you realize just who you were carrying feelings for and how little she deserves them.

Mode= Devil's Advocate V.2

Is it fair to say this is cheating? It's SUSPICIOUS she's going to dinner with people, but if she's just hanging out with some guy or going out to dinner with a friend who may or may not like her romantically, that's not exactly grounds for cheating per se. I mean, honestly, it sounds like a mixture of either she's doing suspicious things or you're just overly insecure and jealous of her getting attention from the opposite six.

Wow, what a dog.

That she actually lied straight to your face... ugh you're better off without her.

How badly do you want to get back at her and make her feel the same pain your feeling and just how religious are her parents if they are religious.

Also i know how you feel ive had more then a few pieces of worthless crap cheat on me i even caught one in the act the guy was never seen in london again but dont worry i left him alive i just gave him an ultimatum he leaves or i tie the rest of him to the bed an get a rusty pair of scissors he got the picture and pissed off back to scotland.

As for her with her been indian and her parents been very old fashioned arranged marriage an all i sent them a lovely little present with images an films of their precious little girl and she was carted off to india an disowned by her family.

Not that im evil or vindictive i just dont take crap.

I don't know. His suspicion is a guy saying 'when are we going to dinner?' and a 'friend of a friend' claims to have seen it. Is all that a little questionable? Yeah, but hardly reason to say she's a cheating wench.

True. I'd say stake the situation, OP, if what the Kernel here's suggesting is true, then you wont wanna do anything brash that may not have been the right thing to do at all.

Past actions do give a little more weight to the report.

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I've harmlessly flirted with, had many dinners, lunches, study sessions, and private walks with attractive and unattractive folks of the opposite gender. I just happen to relate better to the opposite six - I hate talking about construction, hunting, machines, sports, etc. (the typical fare for around where I live) My wife knows and accepts this.

If there's evidence of her "falling for" another, then you sould definitly take a tac which would serve you best.

Mmmmmm, I don't think so. His gf didn't do anything that bad except be overly flirty. I can understand that making a guy a little chafed under the collar, but, IIRC, there has been no hardcoe proof she cheated on him.

Why hate the guy? You're not dating him. Drop the skank like a bad habit.

... sleep with her mother.

Dinner with a friend of the opposite six, damn I'd have dumped my GF years ago if that classified as cheating. Wow, never knew eating from a fork was the equivalent to svcking dike these days.

Your mate saw her cheating on you, if she was cheating on you I really doubt it'd be in plain sight of people.

What exactly did he say they were doing? For the love of God don't say "hold hands"

From the previous thread, he was aware of her past cheating. I didn't say there was proof of current cheating, just that past actions would require a closer look at the report.

or he could just keep going with her, and instead of of "making love" just call it six, and get himself another girl on the side.

Yeah, but I BELIEVE those were cheating on another guy, not OP. I'm not saying people should forget people's past actions, but it also shouldn't be held against them.

It was on another guy. I still say it adds a little weight to it possibly happening again. I agree a 3rd hand rumor is not proof, but I think it's enough to cause him to take a closer look.

I sure hope you are joking about this. Deliberatly ruining someone's entire life, separating them from their family and friends and very likely putting their life in very real danger....that is seriously wrong. She was lucky she was only disowned, dishonored and ruined, which is bad enough and essentially the end of everything for her.... but also very traditional families do carry out 'honor killings' back in India, it is more common then reported. You should have known better then to go that far just to satisfy your own hurt pride. Wow...just wow,....

OP, you need to sit back and get the truth before leaping into rage on what is 'heresay'. Like others said, she may have simply been spending time with friends who happen to be male and she may have lied because she felt you would make a problem where there is none.

That's it man.. Game over. May as well give up on life.

Sorry... As a rule I would recommend the exact opposite of any advice I might have. I have thin skin and don't get out much.