The vast majority of mods that didn't play nice with the DLC have been updated by now, it's mostly a non-issue. As far as the DLC breaking things, there isn't any real issue with them. Install the DLC's, unofficial patches, and watch Gopher's vids on "cleaning" mod files with TES5EDIT and you should be good to go.
I wholeheartedly recommend Dawngaurd, it adds a lot of things to the game beyond a nice quest-line. Hearthfire is optional, I enjoy it, but if building a house and "role-playing" aren't really your thing you can skip it.