Alright, so I am immensely exhausted emotionally from dwelling on this, so I hope this will be easy enough to follow. I sense some bullet points coming on..
Right, so: My husband and I live five thousand miles away from each other.
Reason? Our marriage wasn't enough to get me a visa for his country, or vice versa.

I have yet to finish college, as visiting (most recently three months at a time) doesn't mix well with that. I have every intent to return and finish my education and begin a career.

Without my completed college education, I am having problems finding a job, especially one over minimum wage (though I am aware a diploma may not make that much of a difference in this economy).

In order to study in his country (Austria), I need several things:

• A document (notarized) that has written proof that I given "permission" to study in Austria. This document is supposed to be from a US university, however every single one I've asked has no idea what I'm talking about
  
• B2 or higher proficiency in the German language. I think (after reading what each level details) I am, at best, a B1 and safely at A2. Of course aside from being at B2 level, I have to take an exam, pass, and have that notarized. The closest center is in DC, where I am no longer based (and is 2.5 hours away). The main issue is obviously my language skills, though. While I don't believe I'd pass, I also have a massive amount of anxiety regarding tests, even more so when this is so important, has a speaking section, and wouldn't be something I could take whenever I wanted.
  
• Obvious documents (high school diploma, passport, etc.) notarized.
  
• And ultimately, permission to live and learn in the country via Visa/permit, which is a whole new story..

So, all in all, I really don't want to go this route because I am simply not a German-speaking wizard, nor will I ever be. My passions are widespread and I often work hard for improving them, but the German language just isn't one of those passions. I'm far too uncomfortable in social situations as it is, and using a second language to speak with people even just casually really makes me anxious. I can communicate with his family on a basic level, for example, but I try to withdraw from them at times lest I have a panic attack. A lack of confidence in my abilities is my major handicap, so I've heard..

Anywho, the other obvious option would be to just study here. I've moved since I last went to college, so transferring everything would be the main priority. The issue here is that my first years put me in debt, and I can't afford it right now (keep in mind it's infinitely cheaper to study in Austria, which is just about the only pro aside from being with my husband). My SAT scores also leave some to be desired (I put forth little effort, only taking the test once, thinking that since I was going abroad it didn't matter. Didn't work out that way), and I feel I only got into the school I did via my GPA, luck, and my entry exam/essay. I'm not sure if it would work again, especially since I'm not fresh out of high school.

To summarize: I'm broke, my options are tedious to achieve or near impossible, speaking to embassies has gotten me nowhere, endless research has just been depressing.. surely it shouldn't be so hard to be with someone you're married to? I undoubtedly want to finish my education, which is why this is an issue.. in theory, after a lot of waiting I could get a visa, but that's just half the problem. I don't know if I should give it up for him, hope for the best that I'll get a well-paying job somehow and prosper? Either way I don't feel comfortable yet with my German to live in Austria, and I know he doesn't want to live in the states.

Questions for you: Have you or someone you know been through something similar? How did you/they deal with it? Should I just stop whining and apply to a US college (probably community) and pretend I won't miss him and that our marriage won't suffer? Any other general ideas/comments?

I realize this is a long, wanky post and I'm sorry for that. I'm not even sure if I have much of a point more than just to rant, but hopefully someone has some insight.

Welcome to marriage. I say do it. Swallow your anxiety and get by his side, pull be much happier for it. How you go about that with the specifics you've laid out, I cannot help you with but wish you all the luck.

You're in a difficult situation, I'm afraid I can't be of much help. But if I were you, I'd just take the language test and get all the other stuff you need to study in Austria, and then move in with your husband. You'll never get fluent in German if you stay in the US. The best way to learn is by living in Austria and actively using the language every day (though being in Austria, you will get a funny accent ). As long as your German is good enough to get you in college there, that'll do for now. A friend of mine was in a similar situation a few years ago, her boyfriend was in Denmark. She went to live with him in Copenhagen for a year. Never heard a word of Danish in her life, but picked up the basics in no time. I have no idea how good a B1 level is, but I think you'll get by just fine.

It seems like your best choice to me. Who knows, it might work out great. Austria is a beautiful country, I wouldn't mind living there myself. On the other hand, I can't see your marriage going anywhere good if one of you doesn't move in the foreseeable future.

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But, what I managed to gleam from it is that you are going to college away from your husband and you want for know if you should transfer to another college in a different country even further from your husband. You want to know if this is a good idea.

Answer is no. Your marriage what little one you have is already strained and you want to move further away?

How about you transfer to a college closer to your husband. You know, one where you can go home to your husband.

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So what, is your husband just sitting back and letting you figure out a way to come to him? Isn't there anything he and his family can do to help?

If not, you seem to be in a fairly impossible scenario. If you can't come to him, and he won't come to you (sheesh), then there's nothing you can do.

I feel sorry for you and I hope you can get this worked out.

EDIT: Random thought, but maybe he could meet up with you temporarily in the US and move back to Austria with you in his company. Or is that out of the question?