Got to rant a little bit, bare with me.

My cousin is staying with us for a few days. He is 19, never finished Highschool, and not even attempting to look for a job. His parents have money coming out of their butts, and they just give him anything he wants. Its annoying the [censored] out of me. (Pardon my language)
They bought him a house. Not an apartment, not with a mortgage, but just outright bought him a 4 bedroom/3 bath house. They pay for everything; Bills, clothes, food, even a new fricking car.

The point is, hes the most spoiled asshat I've ever known. Basically your stereotypical tool; Gelled hair, way to many tribal tattoos, pretty sure he uses steroids.

I live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my dad, his girlfriend, and her son. I've had to live in homeless shelters, one bedroom apartments with three people, etc. You get the point. We're not exactly rolling in money on my side of the fence.

First thing he said when we got to my apartment?
"Damn, this [censored] is small. You should buy a bigger place."

Seeing as he "Don't want to eat that [censored]" (hamburger helper) he suggested we go to a restaurant. Me foolishly thinking he'd be courteous. He ordered the lobster while got some Cajun shrimp. When he was done, he went to the bathroom. Ok, fine. But when the check came, I got a text "Out in the car, hurry your fat ass up". So I'm left paying the bill, which kind of stings when your 17 and are working ontop of school.

Next day he decides he wants to see the sights. So we go to the Mat-su glacier. One of my favorite places, its breathtaking. I see a couple girls from school and we decide to walk around together. I introduce them, he seems to behave well. I was having fun, me and one of the girls really hit it off.
About 20 minutes later though, I hear "Damn, you got an ass that don't quit."
Turns out at that moment, he though it was a Capital idea to grab her butt. He got slapped and called the girls many names (including some starting with a B, C, and T). Needless to say, the girls ran off. Now they won't even talk to me.




I just needed to vent, Right now I want to punch his stupid face in.


Anyone else have any experiences with these types of people?

No one that bad, no. Frankly, family or not, I'd kick the guy out if I had a choice (I realize you probably don't).

But I confess some curiosity as to why in the world is he staying at your apt. in the first place, when he has rich parents who could pay for some fancy hotel or something?

His parent's wouldn't let him stay at any of the motels in the area (I live in a relatively small town) because "they're probably infested with bedbugs." Was the reason they gave my dad.

I know none that are both slackers and get fed money like that, at least not on such a personal level, but I can say that as frustrating as it is to see such people I still pity them over those who get less handed to them. The job of a good parent is to teach its child the skills it needs to get by on its own, as well how to get by in modern society without getting into trouble.

The description of him that you've given shows a pretty big lack of insight and empathy and people who are lacking in those fields will often turn others against them much like with how he has already turned you and those girls against him as a person. You can measure your quality of life in many ways and while one may be the quality of your possessions another can be the quality of your relationships with other people or the quality of your own skills and many other such things.

I really can't say how you should respond to him without knowing him more, and I don't think anyone else on these forums can tell you anything better than what you yourself can think of as you know him better than anyone else here, at least as far as I know, but my advice is just to be patient with him and point it out to him where he is going wrong. If he's trying to get you to buy something you really can't just point out that you actually have to manage your income, and if he's harassing those around you then don't stick by his side but go to their side, show him that you are not okay with his behavior.

Basically just be honest to your own sense of needs and justice.

If you hate him so much why do you even bother talking to him?

In a way. In a different way. Yep, they svck.

That is all.

I tried to apologize for his behavior to the girls, but they ran off before I could say much.

I'm not really a confrontational person. I yelled at him for the girl incident and he just found it funny.


Don't really have a choice. My dad and his girlfriend are at work all day. He doesn't know anything about alaska, and things don't seem to hold his attention for long. Hes constantly bugging me.

Because then he wouldn't have the opportunity to tell us about him, of course!

Plus as was said he's staying with the OP for a few days, so some contact is inevitable. Why you would take him out to see the sights and introduce him to girls when you know how he acts is beyond me though.

I didn't know he would be that bad, though. I really hadn't seen much of him since I was a kid.
I didn't really have a choice with him meeting the girls though. They saw me and came over, she asked if they could walk around with us. Its one of those things that just happens, you're not really planning for it.

I've kicked people out for much less, granted they have always had a place to go. Still, I wouldn't put up with that in my own place. Can't say I have had much experience with someone like that because, anyone even half as spoiled wouldnt be someone I want around.

Don't know the family situation there, obviously, but if I was your dad I'd probably start to ignore that part of my family. But then, I have no patience for such things, family or not. Blood is not thicker than water to someone like me...blood still has to earn loyalty through action.

As to your cousin....if you can, I'd just avoid hanging out with him. He may be staying at your place so you can't avoid him there, but there's no reason to go cruising the town with him etc. Tell him he can see the sights by himself. It's not like he's 10 and it's not like he's willing to share the wealth to show his younger cousin some fun times, if you know what I mean, so...

And yes, it's sad that his parents raised him that way/he turned out that way, but for me pity/sympathy only goes so far. ExaltedReign is not his father, and that trick in the restaurant would have earned this fella a serious talking to, from me.

This person sounds disgusting, D=

I share your pain.

If I were you, I'd stop being around him completely and stop wasting your cell count on bearing his presence

A manager at a former employer used to pull a similar stunt, he'd order the most expensive bottle of wine and bugger off when the bill came, saying "just put it on your room bill, I'll make sure the expenses go through", and of course he didn't. Very annoying, but ultimately it did far more damage to his reputation than it did to his employees' wallets. It's not fun to endure but I guess if one must do it, keeping sight of where they're headed with that behaviour makes it a little easier.

Arrogance is my anti-thesis. That said, I'm not friends with arrogant people because we will clash big time. So I don't know any toolbags like that at all.

And there IS a rich person in our family, but he lives far away.

He sounds like a real sack o' [censored].

You live in Alaska. Pretty sure people get lost there all there time.

Yeah, I know a lot of d-bags. I usually tell them to slag off.

On a more serious note, just take solace in that you know he won't amount to anything more tgan an [censored].

Sounds like a knob head. I don't know anyone that bad. I've met a lot of idiots, but I don't normally have to spend any time with them so it's alright.

My dad works all day. My cousin doesn't know anything about alska, doesn't know anyone else. He doesn't have a car here, and no way am I letting him borrow mine. I don't really have a choice in the matter. Hes constantly bugging me at home because hes bored.


Hes not making me pay for everything, he paid for the glacier tickets and some other things, its just that one dinner that really steamed me.

So what's your cousin doing up in Alaska in the first place?

If a cousin of mine did that to one of my friends, all of his belongings would be strewn about the street in front of my apartment within an hour. And if he refused to leave, I'd call the cops and have him removed.

He may be family, but he doesn't act like family. His behavior has absolved you of any responsibility you might ever have had toward him. Toss his worthless ass to the curb.

Mmm....yeah, that can be difficult. Can you, say, drop him off somewhere and tell him you'll pick him up in a few hours or something like that? That way he gets out and maybe you can have some hours of peace alone?

It'll be tossed one way or another when his parents die and he's left to fend for himself, I imagine.

Erm...inheritance?

Yeah? He'd probably squander it.

Would be my guess. Buy toys irresponsibly until he has no money then whine about he's broke/needs a loan. One never knows...but it seems likely, based on description.