Well so I made the Falkreath manor, raised a happy family with aela, two kids and a dog.

Decided I was bored and wanted to move to Windstad manor.

So what happened was, I got the option to move when talking to Aela, but she just wouldn't. Tried a bit of troubleshooting, nothing seemed to work. Thought it might be because Aela's pathing is so horribly glitched and messed up due to the hearthfire DLC, so tried some troubleshooting with that, no success. I got the idea to first move them to a different house, Whiterun, which did work.

Now I tried moving from Whiterun to Windstad, what would happen is Aela would show up, the dog too, but the kids would dissapear. A few speech options were also missing from Aela like asking how the kids are. If I would wait or fast travel, Aela and the dog would dissapear from Windstad and move back to Whiterun and the kids would be there too. Tried again and now Aela is who knows where, and just the kids and the dog are in Whiterun.

So I'm here after 4 hours of trying .. anyone had anything similar like this and know a fix? xbox360 by the way.

Also AAGHRHGHSGAHGRTGHHDHGSHSAJAHHAGSGHA I'm going to bed..

Update: Everyone moved, finally. All was good, went into the cellar, came back, & POOF! everyone dissapeared. Yay

Also a different bug, might or might not be related, I let my steward finish the house after I made the basics, but when I entered the cellar there was nothing at all, and the workbench was there even though I had it removed.

Tried removing the workbench 10x now, won't work.

Sorry for triple post but
FIXED FINALLYYY
If anyone else has the same problem, it did seem to be the cellar workbench, I managed to get it removed by adding all workbenches back and then removing them all. After that my finally moved right in without a problem or people dissapearing.

You have to furnish the cellar yourself, the steward does not do it, and likely you are stuck with the workbench if it is Windstad Manor. You could try setting the workbench as being there on the outside drafting table, accessing the outside workbench and then go back and try and remove the workbench.

I assume if you are removing the workbench you have actually furnished the cellar, otherwise it will probably not remove no matter what your do. I only partially furnished the cellar with two characters and got stuck with the workbench.

Edit
I was a bit slow with the reply, glad you fixed it Nevvychelly.

Well, in Falkreath manor my steward actually did furnish it for me, so I'm confused now.