I completely agree, this is the reason my wife and I quit AION. This PVPVE crap is for the birds. I do not mind PVP when you have a choice. However to be going out minding your own business and getting ganked every time you walk out the gate is utterly moronic. Idiots camping the gate areas waiting for players to walk out and kill them for their kill ratio is plain B.S. Keep PVP where it belongs and when you choose to do it. AION could have very easily taken a que from the way SWG used to have it. You could go to an NPC and ask to be, "Covert"-- No PVP, or "Overt"-- Open to PVP Anywhere.
One thing I'd like to mention is that in DAoC, you couldn't invade any of the opposite players realms, where basically all the PvE'ing and leveling took place, and that seems to be the case here in ESO, so I don't think it'll be a problem. Another nice thing about DAoC, was that if you were in the Frontiers (The PvP area), there would mobs there you could kill, and you would get a nice bonus to XP (I think like 20% or something), so the players who were willing to risk grinding in a PvP zone had the opportunity to do so, and were rewarded for it. Of course, they could also get attacked by other players. I hope they implement this in ESO, with a nice bonus to players willing to grind/raid/quest in Cyrodiil. That would be awesome.