You didn't explore all the options did you. If you chose to have her soul trap you, you can return whenever. And I also got Valerica as well.
That i did, but as a mage with hardly any health, i did NOT want to have even less health, i mean 120 health is low enough for level 35.....and playing on master. it was one thing to do it with my warrior that had a ridonkulous amount of health, but not my glass cannon of a mage.
And what i was trying to point out is that alot of people were frustrated that you could become a VL after the MQ for dawnguard, but the reason it is like that is because if you chose to become a vampire for the soul cairn, and then cured yourself, you would never be able to return without that option.