I mean, like, you weren't really being yourself because you thought the people you were talking to would be different.

For example: When I first joined the BGSF Minecraft server, I thought everyone was going to be a huge fantasy nerd, and everything they talked about would have TES references and stuff, so I kind of went on acting as a sort of fantasy nerd at the start. Bone and undone might remember from the first time they spoke to me Not long after though I realised everyone wasn't a huge fantasy nerd and there was differing personalities and interests and stuff, so it was OK, I didn't have to be a fantasy nerd

Anyone else done something like this?

I do it all the time. People who know me tell me to be myself, but experience has taught me that that's an absolutely terrible idea. "Myself" isn't good enough for most people, and certainly not good enough for me.

Generally speaking I try and contain myself when I meet new people. I don't think I have particularly changed how I acted to fit in with certain groups but then again I don't often meet new people and groups enough to actually have to change my behavior. I certainly would try and watch what I said with new people and at least make a good impression but not act as I expected them too. I just try my best to be myself and hope people like that, if not, oh well I guess.

I tried when I first started secondary school. Wanted to be with the cool kids and all that. But I was a terrible faker anyway so it didn't work out. Turns out the people who aren't considered cool or popular are pretty great anyway, so it all turned out well.

Most people act differently when they are among others. I act different around my parents, around my friends, around a date, around my boss, my co-workers, strangers on the street, my daughter, my ex-wife, all you people on this forum, everybody.

We all have different reasons for doing it, and it may have nothing to do with "fitting in" or "being cool" but it's still happening.

Unless you have Asperger disorder or something like that, I'd bet cash money that you have at least three different personas.

Everything I do is an act usually. Sure, there will be tiny bits of my true personality within the act here and there, but more often than not I prefer to play the role of that sarcastic [censored] whom you think speaks insanity, and yet everything they say really does make sense, and will sometimes have you realize a few things about yourself or the world around you. The only time I ever let my true, genuine self show is when someone needs it... which thankfully, is not often.

Hell, even when I am not playing the Vidicus character, I often identify other modes as separate personas.

When I was a kid I did. Then I hit about 15 and thought, bugger it, I like doing the things I like. I should either find new friends or hope the ones I currently have still like me for liking what I like.

I've never changed my personality really. Other than the first time I met my boyfriend's parents/family. I was much nicer than I really am. I remember sitting for Christmas dinner with them a few months after meeting and made a really sarcastic comment (as I'm prone to do...) and his sister just looked at me weirdly and said 'no one likes sarcasm'. I thought '[censored], I'm never going to be able to be myself around these people!!'. Luckily they live down South so I don't see them often.

I change quite a bit depending on who I'm with. At work I'm pretty confident and join in with banter and stuff (and also put on a slight Thames Estuary accent for some reason). With friends I'm a bit more open with my nerdiness and generally more myself. I only have a few IRL and a few internet friends who I'm really myself with.

Even if you know someone who accepts everything about you, chances are you will still filter yourself quite often. Saying and doing whatever you feel like can be quite a pain for the person who has to put up with it.

Probably the worst example I have done is pretending to be religious for the sake of a girl. Long time ago. Don't think she bought it.

Don't be fake for anyone.

Nobody in real life knows my secrets.

Nobody.

No. I generally am myself. I'm a bit rough, but a nice guy. A lot of people don't like me. But that's ok. I kind of prefer to be alone most of the time.

Completely unrelated but, there's a BGSF Minecraft server? I bought MC for my son on the computer but he hasn't played it, he prefers the Xbox version. I haven't played it much either, just made an island called, "Idiot Island" but if there is a BGSF server maybe I'll join and give MC a real go.

Yessir there is, and the folks running it are trying out an interesting "Desert Survival" map soon. Check it out when you can.


And Tallest, I always saw you as someone whom called things as he see's them. My motto is that the internet is not a place where things should be taken to seriously, unless the matters at hand are seriously... uh... serious. Heck, I can see the rough bits of you just coming from getting sick of the stupidity that people sometimes... most of the time... usually all the time, seem to emit.

Either way, don't be so hard on yourself. Your name and avatar are more than enough reasons for someone to like you.

Thanks. I'm going to look at the Mincraft thread for the server address.

Oh, and thanks for the kind words. I do have a tendency to speak my mind and not hold much back; which also has a habit of landing me in trouble.

Not really change my personality, but I definitely mellow down when I'm talking to someone other than my friends. Not that I'm shy, but like Shadow said, you want to leave a good impression and not immediately jump into the fart jokes.

I'm definitely more chill around girls I have a crush on though. I'm not the usual spaz around them.