So you don't see Press Start, New Game, anything like that on the right side? What model PS3s are you playing on?
I'm playing on a fat 80 GB model. And no. Nothing on the right side. Just the Skyrim logo left of center on the screen.
Also, just checked to see the install size. It's only at 2.6 GB. Not sure if this affects anything.
EDIT: HOLY CRAP! It's starting! No idea what I did.
I had the same problem, I left the patch installed and deleted the game data. When I started it up again reinstalling the game data it worked. Try deleting just the game data and not the patch.
This is what I did. Thank you man. I'm late to the party, but I'm ready to go.