Help me help people

Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 4:54 pm

So browsing Tumblr I came across a suicide note written by a girl today. I messaged her kind words and hoped it wasn't too late (haven't heard back). Then I clicked on the tag 'suicide' and every minute there are more and more posts, mostly from teenaged girls, getting bullied and threatening to kill themselves.

Some posts are very detailed and graphic, many feature suicide notes, many have pictures of their means of suicide, there are many very graphic and bloody pictures of deep cutting...

I've been messaging every person who makes a disturbing post over the last hour as many kind words as I can and a few girls replied saying they were glad I messaged them and it did make them feel a little better. However one girl said thank you for the kind words but I'm only trying to delay the inevitable and she's killing herself tonight.

Some may be a cry for attention, but I do believe that if just ONE of these posts is real, it's a life worth saving.

However, Tumblr limits the amount of Asks you can do in an hour (a way of asking a blogger a question, the only means of messaging them) and I've hit this limit.

Now I can't help anyone for the next hour. I emailed Tumblr about expanding my ask limit in order to help people but haven't heard back.

Here's a link to the suicide tag on Tumblr. It's quite disturbing.

http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/suicide

I've also contacted various Suicide foundations to see if they monitor and reach out to people on Tumblr, but the more help the better.

Please, help say some nice words to people being bullied. Even if it's them bullying themselves.
Respect +5

Just don't beat yourself up, there's a lot of people out there who will intentionally or unintentionally try and stop you. Help who you can, do your best, and for those that don't make it just know you gave it your best shot. Oh and take breaks, as hard as it is. If you don't help yourself, you won't be helping anyone. Good luck.
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Dawn Porter
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 10:49 am

OP, you should also ask what issue/situation these people are in, then show them a quote I saw recently:

"Ask yourself: Will this matter a year from now?"
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Krystal Wilson
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 11:43 am

You can beat yourself up over it or accept that their lives are not your responsibility. Lots of people die, lots of people kill themselves, lots of people you've never met and never will no matter how far you roam the planet.

You're just adding problems to your own life.

I carry this same attitude myself, but I certainly commend you for what you're going. Its very noble.
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SWagg KId
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 6:41 am

Seriously?

Yeah, seriously. Someone wants to do something that stupid, then let 'em. It's their life; they can do whatever they want with it. Sure, I'd be devastated if someone close to me did it, but I'd be plenty mad at them while I'm grieving. Suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness, and is often done just to spite people around the "victim". You know how I'd feel if my sister killed herself right now? I'd wonder why in the [censored] she was sad enough to do something like that, and yet seemed to give no consideration for anybody else's feelings. I'd hate her for doing it.

So you know what? If those girls are big enough selfish [censored] to go through with it, I say good riddance, especially if they're threatening it over the internet.
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Jeremy Kenney
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 10:32 am

If more people kill themselves, maybe the collective genepool of the world population will improve.

And speaking of suicide, it is a very interesting decision. On a biological level, every living entity does whatever it can to sustain its own existence, so to go against that very principle is tremendously fascinating. Personally, I could never do it, being only twenty and all, haven't really lived yet. Besides, I'm having too much fun.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 12:23 pm

Now I'm probably gonna come off as a dike or an uncaring individual which is 99% of the time untrue, but with suicide, its a different story. I think people willing to commit suicide are pussies and if they don't have the balls to face life then they don't deserve life. And this is coming from a man who's little brother just lost his best friend to suicide 2 days ago.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 6:00 am

I to have to commend you for your effort.

Keep in mind, though I have no statistics, many who voice suicide never follow through.

I never said a word when I tried at 16. I'm just really glad I failed. (Because I woke up and realized I didn't want to die so I got help for myself before it was too late. Close call.)

Kindness is never a wasted effort however, even if some are not actually serious. I try and smile to everyone I make eye contact with IRL. It pleases me when they smile back. :)
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:59 pm

I never said a word when I tried at 16. I'm just really glad I failed. (Because I woke up and realized I didn't want to die so I got help for myself before it was too late. Close call.)
Same here. Never really told any of my family how close I was (twice) to committing it. Glad I decided to just man up and face the lemons in life!
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 12:44 pm

It sounds mean to say, but a few kind words will not ever be enough to justify living to someone who has had many years -- if not their whole life -- of depression and suicidal thoughts. Plus, it's not really anyone's place to stop them. Of course, you can reassure a suicidal person that life is in fact worth living and there are people who want them to have a chance at it and to not make this permanent decision, but getting authorities and officials involved in what is their personal business is definitely not good for their situation. In fact, it could make it worse. Having your issue blown out of proportion and everyone knowing about it and getting put on suicide watch could definitely be the opposite of helping. You're forcing someone who doesn't want to live, to live. I don't think that's fair. Everyone has the right to die.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 9:39 am

If more people kill themselves, maybe the collective genepool of the world population will improve.
suicide is more environmental than genetic
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Melis Hristina
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 10:11 am

Yeah, I suppose. But you know, less morons, more smarts.
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Mason Nevitt
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:37 pm

Suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness, and is often done just to spite people around the "victim". You know how I'd feel if my sister killed herself right now? I'd wonder why in the [censored] she was sad enough to do something like that, and yet seemed to give no consideration for anybody else's feelings. I'd hate her for doing it.

I understand and somewhat share that viewpoint, but i also understand how it can seem there is no other way out. I haven't been in such a stituation myself, close but not quite there, so i can understand the mental state someone who tries that is.

Anyway, it is good to see that there are people willing to go the extra mile to help a stranger, you give hope to a jaded man :hehe:
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 4:10 pm

Why do people think these people committing suicide are unintelligent? The smartest person in the world can have one bad day that ruins everything. Chaos is fare.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 12:32 pm

Why do people think these people committing suicide are unintelligent?
I'll grant that there have been plenty of intelligent people that have committed suicide over the course of history (poor van Gogh), but its pretty clear that modern statistics tend to lean towards the unintelligent/immature types.

The smartest person in the world can have one bad day that ruins everything.
The smartest person in the world would have the perspective to pick himself back up and realize that it was just one day.

We all get dangerously irrational and emotional sometimes, and in our worst moments plenty of us have also fantasized about committing suicide and seeing how much pain it would cause to the people who love us. But some of us are also reasonable enough to dispense feelings like these without harming ourselves or anyone else. Go to sleep, wake up in the morning, take an objective look at the world around you, and see if you still hate it as much as you did yesterday. If you have problems with some people, deal with them. In 90% of all cases in the first world, that's really all there is to it.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 7:35 am

Some of us just crawl into a bottle/syringe like I did. :shrug:

(Thankfully back out to again though, for some of us.)
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Adriana Lenzo
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 3:54 am

Never mind.
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Nana Samboy
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 6:31 am

OP I think you're wasting your time. The people who really are going to commit suicide will just do it without hanging around on the internet waiting for replies. The rest are just attention seeking emos and self-harmers who aren't going to be cured by some random message on Tumblr. If you want to help people your time would be better spent elsewhere.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 6:01 pm

OP I think you're wasting your time. The people who really are going to commit suicide will just do it without hanging around on the internet waiting for replies. The rest are just attention seeking emos and self-harmers who aren't going to be cured by some random message on Tumblr. If you want to help people your time would be better spent elsewhere.

Yeah, if you really want to help these people, you should pursue a career in psychiatry and or therapy. Hospital Nursing in psych wards is another way. Also, you should help change this culture we have where people are called 'pussies' for being wracked with emotional anguish, likely because they were damaged by their upbringing or by other things they had little control over at the time.
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 8:08 am

Also, you should help change this culture we have where people are called 'pussies' for being wracked with emotional anguish, likely because they were damaged by their upbringing or by other things they had little control over at the time.
And that's alllllll that needs to be said about that.
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Farrah Lee
 
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Post » Wed Aug 08, 2012 8:35 am

And that's alllllll that needs to be said about that.

You're right. I like these forums too much to risk getting banned; I'm dropping it.
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