I just needed to vent and get some insight from others. Sorry for the "whine".

Anyway, I "thought" that getting the 750 honda shadow would be a great thing, that I would enjoy it so much.
How nice riding will be.

Until I already spent $3,500 of what my wife and I had put up on what I now realize was a very bad mistake.
I damaged the bike and got hurt and have decided that I should get rid of the bike before I get hurt worse or killed.

So now I have it for sale $500 less than what I paid for it, minus the gear I bought.
I just feel that I made a huge mistake and set my self back a bit even though by selling it and working the summer job I can be back on track before the year is out.

I have already lined up two people to come look at it, but I can't help but feel bad over the whole deal.
I don't know if I started on a bike too big, or gave up too easy/fast. I know people make mistakes but I just can't escape the feeling that buying was a mistake and selling could also be a mistake.

We already decided to sell it for what we can get and try to recoup the losses as soon as we can, I just feel bad over the whole thing.

So, I made a mistake and feel bad for now. I hurt my pride and my wallet and my self.

We all make mistakes. Best thing you can do now is accept it, and learn from it. I know it's never easy but that's life.
Try and sell the bike for as much as you can, this will all be a distant memory in a few years time. So no need to worry and feel bad about it now. What's done is done.

(Not sure how many cliche's I used there, but they're all true )

If that was your first bike then you definitely started on one that was too big.

No more than 500 for your first bike.

If you still want to ride, would there be any way of getting a smaller bike and keeping all your leathers/ helmet etc. so you don't lose that much money?

It's like falling off a horse- try and get straight back on before you lose your nerve to ride again. If you get too worked up about falling off and hurting yourself, the chances are you will. Take it easy by all means, but don't be too scared to do it. My dad has ridden motorbikes most of his advlt life, and he'd probably say the same.

Thanks for the responses everyone. My wife and I talked about it and we just feel that it would be better for us to just cut the losses and run.
I called the shop and can get a refund on everything but my helmet (because I wore it) and my gloves because I ripped a hole in them when I went down.
So, I am only out $150 for those two items, that I can keep and use for something else. My other gear is going back and I already have some people lined up to look at the bike.

We are both thankful that I am not hurt any worse than I am, and that the bike is still good enough to be sold. Just needs a mirror replaced the the tank is scuffed.

If I can get $2,500 back out of the bike I am at most out $1,500 after factoring in my gas to pick it up and tax/title.

The only thing you can do now is cut the losses and remember this all your life. Use this experience as a good example when telling children how to use money responsibly.

This is very true and I agree.

And if you want to ever try a bike again, follow this advice as well. Maybe even go a little less. I haven't had my own bike, except for a 125 cc Yamaha dirt-bike, but you always have to work from lower to higher when it comes to motorcycles.

Ah, buyer's remorse, my old frie.....nemesis.

At least yours is deserverd. Me, I just second guess most things I buy. (I'm very impulsive. Though, I have an "only if it's on sale" policy in place now. Even then......I still rack my brain at times.)

As others have said, chalk it up to a learning experience, accept it, and move on.

I'm just glad to know you are "ok". (minus bumps/bruises/pride/etc....you're alive. )

svcks to lose money, but considering what could have been/could happen, I think you're making the right choice.

ONLY $500 less? You're getting off easy. If you bought it at a dealer you'd be trying to sell it for at LEAST 50% less than what you paid.

He even damaged the bike and he's still selling at a good price

Of course I don't know how much the damage is but I imagine there's some good scraqes on it if he fell.

Thats why I am glad I bought used.

Its needs a mirror fixed, and it is scratched. I am fairly sure that most of the scratches will buff out.

I guess I see this way:

You really wanted to get the bike and you did. You won't ever have to deal with the "what if" of owning said bike. It didn't work out, but that's ok. You learned a very valuable lesson and though you have a few bruises (inside and out) you're better for it.

im sorry brother, i hope things workout

Well, I really wanted to like it and was hoping it would be awesome and something me and my wife can do.
I got the bike and when I was sliding down the pavement at 30 MPH it didn't seem so awesome anymore.
The thought of "what if" I slid under a car, or "what if" I was doing 65 and not 30.

I got beat up, and set back a bit of money, the money can be replaced but I can't replace me.

I thought that maybe if I had a smaller bike it might not have happened, but with a bike its not "if" you drop it/get hurt its "when".

Me too, hopefully I can flip it (even at a loss) and go on about my way.
With my summer job (I only took because I bought the bike) I should be back to even by June/July after selling the bike.
Then I can go into the green past that point working out the rest of the summer on my second job.

I might even get back into racing this year.

If you wanted it, it wasn't a mistake. I think you're making a mistake selling it on, so what you fell off/crashed it early on, we all do this when we pick up something new. Like riding a normal bike, if you fall, you get back up and try again, but in this case maybe you should lower your speed and try getting used to the bikes feel before trying to tackle busier or bendy roads.
Giving up on stuff I think just leaves you with the feeling of "what if I kept trying.." and prompt you to buy the bike again and get over the feel of defeat, unless you truely are defeated and easily get over loses (a good and bad thing in itself).

I popped my shoulder muscle (i think it was that) on a 50cc scooter when i was younger infront of all my friends. I felt like crap.

Since then i've had 3-4 more bikes. Motorcycling is a joy and almost every biker has fallen off at some point. You seem very negative about it all in the wake of your accident, i understand that. Give it another go, you'll realise they aren't just death machines.

Could be worse.. you could spend 3,000 for a round trip to Greece to see your girlfriend..and then she breaks up with you in 3 weeks.

Heh, that's what I've got. 50cc Honda Metropolitan. Paid WAY too much for it too, since I went to a dealer. That's actually what's motivating me to keep the thing forever, since if I ever sell it I'll be taking at least a $1500 loss on what I paid.

Honestly ere on the side of caution, alll i ever heard was get back up on the horse, but in alot of cases its basically just stupidity, you dont have to have a powerful bike, it can be someone else fault that causes your accident and you can end up in a wheel chair or paralyzed for life, take it from me accidents destroy your life, learn from your first one you got away from and avoid getting into another one, and if your married the last thing you want is to end up with your wife spoon feeding you for the rest of your life. My first bike was a glorified motor mower, never made any difference.

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_vOZHHFdv00E/SwlqbOU60lI/AAAAAAAAACY/5K-iXmiSofY/s1600/ghost%20rider_qjgenth.jpg

My step dad was huge on motorcycles when he was younger. Now he had about 5 screws and a few metal plates holding the bones together in both legs. I'd rather walk.