Life advice needed.

Post » Sat Feb 23, 2013 11:47 am

You guys are probably used to my serious threads by now, but this one is most certainly not like my previous thread. This one concerns what I should do with my life, not about ending it.

Basically, as I was in the shower tonight I remembered, too late, that I had an assignment due tonight. It had completely slipped my mind all day and I only remembered it once it was past due. Oops. This got me thinking, but the back story needs to be explained first.

I started going to college back in 2009 while I was still in high school. Back then I was only taking one class, French, while I finished up getting my diploma. I went to that college for two more years after I graduated in 2010. For a while, my grades were okay, but as my depression worsened so too did they until last semester when I ended up failing two of the four classes I had. Yay. Why? I just lost interest. I didn't really care if I passed or not, as I had more important things on my mind.

Last spring I realized that the community college atmosphere wasn't quite helping things and decided to go to my local university in an attempt to actually experience college. I thought that the social interaction would be good for me and help my grades as well.

I attended the campus LGBT meetings a few times, and then stopped. I wound up taking only two classes and I passed both, but at the end of the semester I hadn't made any new connections or friends. Acquaintances sure, but not friends. This semester, thanks to a [censored] up on my part which goes back to just not caring, I wound up in only one class: Math. It's not my best subject when I actually care about it, let alone when I don't.

Thing is, something happened in 2011 that I DO care about: I got a job. I've been working at GameStop for about a year and a half now and have pretty much loved it since I started. Customers can get annoying, but I have some of the best co-workers I could imagine and a pretty cool boss. Given it's my first job, I lucked out.

So I enjoy working, but I'm not all that interested in my studies. Thing is the career I'm interested in needs the degree or a lot of experience or both. I'm just not sure if I can/want to get that degree at the moment. It's time that I started planning ahead for the fall semester if I'm going, and I'm not sure if I want to. Something I'm considering is taking a break from working on my degree to get my life back in order. I'd still be working, just not going to classes.

What would I do during this time? Well for starters, learning how to drive. I'm 21 and I don't know how to drive yet. Up until now I didn't really need to since I was home-schooled until I graduated. Not caring is the main reason I haven't learned yet, even though I've had my permit for over a year now. I find it difficult to get out of the house unless I have a set time and place to be, so I'd probably enroll in a local driver's education program. As well, I could use this semester to try to get fit and improve my health. I could join a gym and attend exercise and nutrition classes. I could also work on getting more socially active by trying to find a good support group. All kinds of options are open.

Or I could enroll in classes again for the fall, keep working (which I would either way), and try to fit learning to drive and getting fit in there as well.

Anyway, I'm just wanting to see what you guys think, and what you would do were you in my shoes.

Thanks.
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Aaron Clark
 
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Post » Sat Feb 23, 2013 5:27 pm

Theres nothing wrong with taking a semester off, especially at 21. Hell, plenty of people dont get down and serious about life until well after the age of 21, though the sooner the better of course. Given the advent of your last post I read, the one you know that I'm talking about, I would say it would be a good thing to take a semester off. Use it to improve and enjoy yourself.
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Kate Norris
 
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Post » Sat Feb 23, 2013 1:13 pm

Its just me but depression is placebo and another way how medical companies milk money from us..
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Donatus Uwasomba
 
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Post » Sat Feb 23, 2013 12:33 pm

Speaking from experience, I took a semester off am it took me 10 years to go back to school... So there's that.

I say pursue your dreams to the maximum of your ability while still remembering to relax and have fun as much as possible.
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Rhysa Hughes
 
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Post » Sat Feb 23, 2013 9:23 pm

Its just me but depression is placebo and another way how medical companies milk money from us..

Yup, just like vaccines are there to give children autism and epilepsy isn't a disorder but the devil taking control of the epileptic person. We need to go back to how things were, witch hunts and bubonic plagues for everyone!
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No really if you don't have any sort of understanding of the things you preach don't preach them at all.

In different news I myself have been on a bit of a downside with my own life. I know I can do a lot and I've always had an easy time learning new things but for some time now I've just had no motivation and no will do really do anything. Wish I knew what it was that gave me so much drive as a kid.

So I may not be the best person to give any sort of advice but I can support your decision to take some break from your studies. I myself am on such a break after 2 pretty bad semesters of college where I just had no will to study at all but during this break I've had a lot of time to think about what I want to do next and how to accomplish that. Sometimes a bit of time off can be much better than simply diving into something that will only slow you down further. :P
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