Couple of quick questions:
- Do you have the quest to speak with the Jarl of Whiterun?
- Are you currently tracking the quest to speak with the Jarl of Whiterun?
- Have you tried using the Wait feature?
- Have you tried fast travelling to Riverwood, and then back to Whiterun?
- Have you tried taking a caravan from Whiterun to another capital, and then back to Whiterun?
I have visited whiterun first...i do the companion thing...not all of them...only one quest so far...then i was outside from whiterun done a quest with a Mammoth tooth....
then i killed to Giants...and i am in whiterun again inside the city and speak with the people around....
I don't if this helps...(don't to forget a travel with my foots...) since beginning of the game....i want to discover around...a lot....