im having bit of trouble making him look right, and i was hoping if some one had any idears

Choose one of the default one's. They all look right apart from the skinny old one.

Male preset 1 not bad in my opinion. Might be just change his hair or fix his chin a bit.

What is "right"? I guess you have an image in your head? You can make any preset look practically the same, so which one you choose really doesn't matter - if one of them is close to your idea, it's obviously easiest to go with that one. Try to pinpoint what the facial features of your inner image are. Not only things like eye color, more things like, iis the chin wide or narrow? The cheekbones, are they protruding? What about the nose? The lips, is the mouth set high or low? (Personally, I find the lips on the males the hardest part, they all are either too thin, too pointy - which looks effeminate to me - or too full.)

Brighten the screen, play with the sliders, make sure you look at the face from all angles. Things like changing the eye height, the chin length, the jaw width and the cheekbone height can change a face very much. Set the brightness back to normal before choosing colors (hair, skin, eyes, cheek color, tint, warpaint and so on), then go over the sliders one last time for final adjustments.

Another thing If your "inner image" looks somewhat similar to an NPC, take a look at this site: http://www.truancyfactory.com/mods/skyrim/skyrim_characters.html
You can always make a brown-haired, bearded Ralof or whatever you like. (I have a red-haired Karliah, she's beautiful!)

Edited for spelling. Again.

As long as he/she has long hair and a beard, you're all good. Yes, even the women can have a beard.