My mom was the greatest.. a mix of Wonder Woman, mother Theresa and Alicia Silverstone in the movie Clueless, she could go 'balls-to-the-walls' hardcoe without even knowing why she was going flat out, only that she knew she had to, and that it would somehow help.

-I inherited that from my mom, while my brother has more of my father cautious side to him. And she was scared when I told her that I'd joined the marines.. she knew what I was capable of, because she knew herself.

My mom never knew to any extent what I've exactly done while I was in the service, nor as a private contractor afterwards, because how do you tell your own mother that you've become a murderer?

But she suspected.

She saw me dealing with my daemons..

..sometimes winning,

..sometimes not-so-much-winning.

For the last seven years she's been there every day helping me raise my son, looking after him for months while he stayed with grandma during my last deployment..



...



My mother passed away few weeks ago.. she died quietly in her sleep, never even woke up to it.

Her mouth had fallen open like she was snoring, and her eyes were still shut.

I know this because I found her remains the next day when I went by her house.

Tomorrow her house will be empty... my brother came up from Amsterdam to help me these last weeks to clear it out.

Tomorrow the world that I've known comes to an end..

..and then a new world will be born from it's remains.



I love you, mom. you've been the best damn broad this planet could put forth, and it has been my distinct privilege to call myself your son.

I hope I can be more like you.

"Death had to take her sleeping, for if she was awake, there would have been a fight"

Sorry for your loss, she sounds like an amazing woman, and she did a damn fine job with you.

As long as you keep the love for and the memory of your mom, she will be with you always. Keep a candle burning for her so she can always find the way to your heart.

My thoughts are with you in your time of grief.

I've never had a mother. Congrats to all here.

I'm sorry to hear you've lost your mother. I know myself what it's like to lose a parent, and it's never easy to deal with.

I wish you the best, and continue being the best you, you can be.

The best thing we can do for those that we lost, is to remember them always...both the good times, and the not so good ones.

I have a "mom" by that I mean biological mother. My real mom would be my grandma, who has been helping me and taking care of me since I was eight.

May your mom rest in peace.

My fav i love you mom song

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRIjBg2II4Q

Sizzla Thank You Mama

Thx guys

My biggest grief has been that she died too soon -she was only 68, and in what seemed good health.

So she really snuck out in the middle of the party as if to say 'Let someone else deal with the check, I'm outta here..'

which really isn't like her. She always stayed to the end of a party to help clean up, no matter how late.

I'm okay with how everything has happened.

Yes, I would have wanted her to live longer, but I wouldn't have wanted her to become dependent on others as she grew older. She was a former nurse same as Summer here, and as such she was the worst patient in the world to be around

-not that I'm saying Summer is a terrible patient when she's sick.. but my mom sure was.

Had my mom grown old enough to need caring herself, maybe even having to move into a rest home at some point... would've been bad for everyone.

She would've been a bitter old woman.



I'm glad I was the one to find her as well.. my heart stops when I think that my son would stay over on weekends sometimes so that daddy could go out for a beer and a game of pool on occasion.

And that he would've found his grandmother in the morning..

Or if my brother had been visiting with his daughters..


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NlziqygVQ1g once I introduced her to the band

May she rest in peace.

Damn, Andy. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure she will be missed by many.

I HAD a mother but she's in heaven now, however my father been dating another woman and me and her get along great plus she likes some of the stuff me and my dad love, shooting, hunting and outdoor stuff---I'll actually enjoy the day these two get merried and I get a new step-mother----yay---.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Rest In Peace.

I used to embarrass her no end


I was a still a teenager (early eighties), and she would still go out on occasion. I walked into the house and she was in the living room with a bunch of her friends -the scooby clan I always called them, and as I was rolling through the room on my way to the kitchen she goes:

'A gentlemen gave me a ride home in his BMW last night from de Koog (a village eight miles further) and he had the most remarkable cassette player I've ever seen.'

Oh? wut then? -here I've stopped the teenage-trainwreck-that-I-was and put the whole show in reverse... this I gotta hear.

'Well, at the end of the tape it would jump right out of the player, rotate in the air and insert itself again, and play the other side.'

rilly?

'Uh-huh.., because I must have heard the same side of a tape three times...'

Oh reeeaallly.... -at this point mom thought I didn't believe her.

'Yup.. it has a name.. uhhm.. auto replay or something..'

[drumroll please...]

It's called auto reverse mom, and had you been paying attention, or sitting in the front seat paying attention you would have noticed that in fact it's all done internally with the recording head rotating inside the player and then everything playing backwards..



..so what remains is the question what you were doing in the back seat of a BMW that took all of your attention for more than -you said you heard the same tape side at least three time.. say 30 minutes per side.. that's at least two and a half hours..

..for two and a half hours when de Koog in only ten minutes down the road.. seven if yer ina beamer.



at which point I put the teenage-trainwreck-that-I-was back in first gear and rolled into the kitchen for that sandwich... hoots of laughter coming from the living room.

I think she blushed

I'll just say again that she really was an amazing person, and I'm very glad I got to meet her.

My deepest condolences Andy... she will live on through you.

She sounds great. I haven't lost my Mom but I did lose a father. Either way it is rough. You also would have had years more of experiences with them. I honestly do not know if that makes it better or worse. My deepest condolences.

Death can never truly take those you care for... They are gone in body but here in spirit. All of the good she did for those she loved and cared for will always be in your hearts... and now with her gone it's up to you to be that goodness.

In her own way she was a greater warrior than I could ever be. If I think of the way that she took on certain conflicts in her life, all the while having to deal with a pair of Hellions like my brother and me..



-She was always at the beach, from early March until the storms would set in..

one summer we were all at the beach, the teenagers all in one spot and my mom a couple hundred meters further up with her friends.

*Away* from us.

So.. anywho, I was running across the beach, and slammed my toe into a brick that was just under the sand.. popped the toenail right up like the engine hood on a car.. blood starts spewing everywhere.. didn't hurt too much though so I hobbled to the lifeguard shack with two mates.

The lifeguard basically freaks out at the blood, and says that I have to see the doctor in town for a possible tetanus shot or whatever, and whether there was anyone would could drive me there?

'Well, there's my mom who's laying further up the beach...'

Great! Get her. She can get you to a doctor..

'Uhh.. -she isn't gonna like that..'

The lifeguard was persistent and asked which of my mates was going to inform my mother that her first born was wounded and in need of medical attention..



'Not me.'

'Not me.'

'I ain't doing it!'

'Neither am I.. she still hates me for screwing up her coffee the other day..'

'Hey! I'm a fragile individual!'(*)

'Oh for [censored]s sake fine, I'll go.'



The lifeguard was totally stunned at our responses.., especially when we could hear my mom still thirty meters outside of the shack and swearing like a marine, my other buddy turns to the lifeguard;

'Oh man, you're in sooo much trouble.'

Mom stomps into the lifeguard shack like a tornado in a trailer park, wearing a big moo-moo beach dress that sailed everywhere, asking what the hell her idiot son had done to himself *this* time?

'Uhh.. hi mom.'

The lifeguard tried one last feeble attempt at maintaining his position of authority and said that I needed a doctor to properly remove the torn toe nail and bandage it..


'screw that'


Takes a look at my toe, makes sure I hadn't broken it or anything stupid..

..and yanks the old toenail right off.

'Take yer foot, soak it in the salt water, that'll do it good and use some sand to let it crust over. We'll clean it properly this evening at home.. idiot.'

Gives the horrified lifeguard a last sour look as if she was still going to punch him or something, and then stormed out of the shack back to where she had her stuff muttering 'that you never had these problems with daughters.. daughters would've been niiice...'


*That* woman is your mother?!

I just nodded.

One of my mates towards the lifeguard as we left: 'Dude, you're soo lucky she didn't totally belt you one.. stay healthy bro, don't mess with his mom.'



(*) Yeah.. he actually said something to that extent.


If I could be half the person she was...

So sorry to hear this! My thoughts are with ya, andy!!!