Hello forum users, i have a dilemma, so you see, i like this girl at my school but her family is strict jehovah's witness, ive tried to make it apparant i like her by giving her roses, walking her to class, etc. but today i asked for her phone number and shes not allowed to give her number to guys. Im going to assume shes not allowed to date outside her religion, (or date at all for that matter) what do?

Strange, because Jehovah's Witnesses are usually relaxed and accommodating people, when considering other sects in Christianity. Suggest watching a movie at her house with her parents or something, just to break the ice and show her and her parents that you're a good guy (if you are, that is ).

*sigh*

JAHO.

The fastest way to a womans heart is through her parents. Sleep with them and you're in.

im looking for serious answers, such as lord baffords. ty for that bafford, but im a pretty shy guy and i try to avoid awkward moments and that would be kind of awkwards "Hey can i come to your house and watch a movie with your parents?" also ive been looking around online that they dont date outside the lord, im a christian and they seem to quote the bible a lot, would that count for anything?

My mother converted to a Jehovah's Witness a few years ago. I know more about their religion, and its differences/similarities to most every form of Christianity than she does.

Short Answer: Forget it. Don't even attempt it.

If you don't believe me, or just don't care, you can always PM me for any questions pertaining to their religion or the Bible.

That's simply not true, and let's just agree to disagree for the sake of the thread before we get ourselves in trouble.

Back to the OP, start off by discussing a movie that might've recently come out on video that you know she'll like. Then, suggest something like, "hey, how about we rent it and watch it at your place?" or something along those lines (I'm not hip to the scene after being married for so long). Another suggestion might be asking her if she'd like to go the mall sometime. If she mentions something about her parents, say they're welcome to come to.

bafford, you are simply the most useful person ive seen on these forums, some of these suggestions could work and some couldnt (such as the mall, the nearest mall is nowhere near here) but like i said im shy and i am very new at asking girls out and i just dont know. ive never actually had a true interest in a girl, it would kill me if i was rejected over religion

Well I say take the risk OP. If you like this girl enough, and it seems you do since you've confided in us, then at least try. Not only does it make for good practice, but you'll beat yourself up down the road for not trying.

i would prefer it if you didnt insult my relgion thatguy.
and ya bafford, ive already determined im going to ask her out no matter what on valentines day, i know i couldnt live with myself knowing i hadnt tried

Ok I'm sorry. You are free to believe whatever you like. But I really don't think this is going to work out. But the roses probably helped.

If you don't have the confidence, you're not going to get very far. Personally, I'd have told her to forget her parents. How long does she plan to let them rule her life? If you both enjoy each other's company than her parents can deal with it. It's not like you're going to marry her or something, there's no need to ever meet her parents.

to be honest, this could be hormones talking though ( i am at that age) i would marry her given the chance

Probably hormones. Well, I hope. That's a big deal, dude. You obviously like her a lot so I wish you the best of luck. Make sure to tell us how it all goes!

I don't suppose it's a possibility that she agrees wholeheartedly with her parents about whatever dating rules they have... Triple X, the best thing I can think of is just ask her up front about why she's avoiding your moves. If she explains and still says no, you're just going to have to forget it until she changes her mind.

I'm sure we all know that feeling, but the reality is in 10 years you probably won't even know her, so that's why I say put yourself out there and don't worry about getting rejected. You have your whole life ahead of you.

Don't do that, please. Just date her, your doing better than I did at your age. Keep trying, you might do ok with her but I really think her parents will get in the way. You never know though.

if it goes well i would probably be too happy to make a post. after i gave her the roses and she loved them i was literally too happy to talk, i ignored all my friends for the rest of the day

Don't leave us hanging!

It'd serve as a good example for anyone else who searches for dating advice on Bethesda Forums.

Yea, tell us how it goes.

the main reason ive been so worried about asking her out is that shes such a wonderful person, beautiful, creative, artistic, compasionate, loving, and caring and yet shes never had a boyfriend. i think into things to deeply trying to figure out the reason, why, why would any guy give up a chance to date her. only conclusion i can come to is shes not allowed to date.

Jeeze, that was so sweet I think I became diabetic reading it.
I hope that's not the case. It's worth a shot to try and work around them, if she's willing. Again, good luck, bro.

be like me, just dont date

Moderator note: I deleted posts, parts of which were just kind of insulting to a religion. We have a no-religion policy for a reason. I am trying to leave this open so you can discuss, without getting into a debate on a particular religion or whatever. Suffice it to say her family is devout and apparently she is too, and leave it at that - understanding that it may affect her decision making for one reason or another, but may not be because of you specifically.

Member comment: It sounds like you gave it a good shot. You could, since you seem to be on very nice terms with her, just ask to talk with her privately while you are at school and simply ask her out or ask if she is interested and allowed to date. If so, offer to have her folks meet you, and plan something during the day, not a big date-date type thing. Keep it simple. She may have just said the thing about the phone out of sheer nervousness, if she is inexperienced, or just knows that her family is strict. I think it warrants another shot, but you'll have to do it in person.

thank you for deleting the offensive posts
you have all (except thatguy) been helpful i will stay in touch, also i forgot to mention, on top of all those things i said, SHE IS A GAMER