Not sure how to start this off, but here it goes. One of my friends has been avoiding/dodging me and my other friend all week. The three of us are best friends and my one friend lets just call him friend "A" is the one who's avoiding us. We Have no idea why he is, but for example he continuously avoids our calls, texts, and just the other day he promised friend B that he could use his car to drive him and his girlfriend home, but when it came time to use his car he completely dissapeared and left friend B and his girlfriend stranded and he didn't hear from him the rest of the night. Then yesterday he said to call him at 12 pm to hangout, but when i called him a bunch of times he didn't answer. Then he texts me saying that he's in a "situation" and that he's not trying to duck us and that he would call me when he gets a chance, but eight hours go by and i call him and he doesn't answer, then i wait fourty minutes and called him from a number he doesn't know and he picked up which is the indicater that he's avoiding us. I then called him out on bailing on friend B and his girlfriend and blowing me off today, but he kept giving me like one word answers and said "its complicated" and that he will tell me whats going on next time he sees me face to face and that his mom will be home in a minute and that he has to get off the phone(which is the worst lie ive ever heard). His past explanations as to why he would not pick up our calls is because his mom is always on his case and that he doesn't want his mom to hear us talk about stuff she shouldn't hear (lets put it at that), but thats obviously a lie.
This whole situation has been going on all week and its causing mass amounts of stress and anxiety to me and friend B because me and friend A got in a hit and run accident with friend B's car while friend A was driving and the police are pressing charges against friend B because no one has been able to talk to the police about the case because the officer in charge of the case is on vacation and were worried friend A is avoiding us cause he doesn't want to plead guilty or something, but he promised he would plead guilty and pay the fines and repair costs. The biggest reason why were freaking out is because were all suppose to move to california in june to friend A's place and we don't know if something happened and we can't go and he's afraid to tell us and that were just wasting our times waiting for summer to get here instead of figuring out if we need to start saving money for something else. We also cut off a fourth friend from our group for being a horrible friend and we don't know if friend A is avoiding us to hang out with him, but it just might be me over anolyzing which is probably right.
Friend B and i have no idea what to do and were getting extremely mad, and stressed about whats going on. I would greatly appreciate some advice frome the wise people on this forum on how to approach this situation. Should i just ignore friend A completely and let him come to me on his own terms when he's ready or should we be blowing up his phone trying to figure out whats going on?
» Sun Mar 24, 2013 2:42 pm 
