that did launch but it is in a windowed mode that is sized way too big for my to see the options on the left at least we made some progress.
and ideas
thank you so much guys
TRy launching the game again using TesV.exe -- start the game and make a save - exit and try the launcher again.
If it still does not have play go back and launch again using TESV.exe - open the console (~ key) and type saveini (this force saves an ini file) - exit and retry the launcher again ( One of these may get the launcher to see that the game is installed and are easy enough to test so couldn't hurt !