Confused about the break-up : Othor Games

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 5:11 am

Holy Assassin, I appreciate your or anyone's insight or opinions (yeah, even yours dear "put out or break up" Jonahirt :tongue:

), even if it's just a guesswork.

Don't want to look like a self-pitying jester looking for a validation, I was just wondering what other people might think.
After all, I coped with it quite good (I think) and was just trying to reflect on past.

I was pleasantly surprised by this thread. It does seem like you've taken it well and reflecting on the experience could be beneficial.

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 8:31 am

Um 1.5 years and no six? Should've broken up with her 1.4 years ago...

Oh no... Not you.

:ahhh:

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 12:22 am

Do you mind me asking how old you both are? If she's eight years older than you it just sounds like you were in too different parts of your life, and she either only just realised this or didn't want to hurt your feelings but admitting it sooner.

If she's gone 1.5 years without sleeping with you then she's either got real intimacy issues (which, if so, is likely the crux of the issue) or was seeing/sleeping with someone else. I HATE to be agreeing with Jonas but your average woman in an otherwise sixually active period of her life would find it extremely difficult to go a year and a half without six...

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 4:37 am

I was pleasantly surprised by this thread. It does seem like you've taken it well and reflecting on the experience could be beneficial.

Experience is still an experience after all.

If she's gone 1.5 years without sleeping with you then she's either got real intimacy issues (which, if so, is likely the crux of the issue) or was seeing/sleeping with someone else. I HATE to be agreeing with Jonas but your average woman in an otherwise sixually active period of her life would find it extremely difficult to go a year and a half without six...

A valid concern, however, I can assure you I was not dealing with a cheating or a dishonest person. Not talking out of my ass, out of denial... I just have this sort of a feel for people. Sorry if that sounded to cliché/hollywood/bad romance book :tongue:

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 5:33 am

Welcome back Jona...

If it was me I wouldn't care for the six.... You know people can get married with no need for six.

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 12:22 am

sounds like she needs someone who can push her, and doesn't sound like you are that kind of person :shrug:

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 3:58 pm

I think if she doesn't want to continue the relationship, then you probably shouldn't pressure her. Perhaps she isn't ready for a serious relationship. :shrug:

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 3:19 pm

How so? If they weren't having six, she was having six with someone else. Simple enough. No one goes a year with someone and doesn't have six. You date someone for amonth and aren't having six there's a problem. You're just friends at that point.

Um 1.5 years and no six? Should've broken up with her 1.4 years ago...

your fing joking right?
im 23 years old, and im a virgin, six is not a need of any relationship its a want thats it
now to the op
give her space

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 10:35 am

Sure, but when a girl 'needs space', she's getting it on with someone else. OP missed the boat.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V84STSWVp3g. -_-

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 9:00 am

your fing joking right?
im 23 years old, and im a virgin, six is not a need of any relationship its a want thats it
now to the op
give her space

I'm not sure the word any is fact.
six is a way of communicating, reproducing and bioenergetically discharging. I'm sure many relationships need those things.

(I know what you mean though)

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 2:33 pm

your fing joking right?
im 23 years old, and im a virgin, six is not a need of any relationship its a want thats it
now to the op
give her space

Maybe not need but if you were in a relationship with someone who cared about you, you still wouldn't want six then either?

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 4:28 am

Maybe not need but if you were in a relationship with someone who cared about you, you still wouldn't want six then either?

NO!!!! six is overrated.....

I get the feeling though that the underlying problem was the age difference.

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 11:03 am

Maybe not need but if you were in a relationship with someone who cared about you, you still wouldn't want six then either?

Well, I can say for myself that I would. Alas.

I get the feeling though that the underlying problem was the age difference.

Was the first thing we talked about. Age difference was absolutely not a problem for each of us. It's just a question of maturity

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 3:43 pm

Well, I can say for myself that I would. Alas.

Was the first thing we talked about. Age difference was absolutely not a problem for each of us. It's just a question of maturity :smile:

Hmmm. I am not trying to be a jerk here, but maybe she was lying because depending on her age, she is getting into the age where she wants to have kids, and you being so much younger that might be a turn off, that is my opinion anyway.

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 1:41 am

six is a way of communicating, reproducing and bioenergetically discharging. I'm sure many relationships need those things.

Communicating can be done without six, not every relationship needs to reproduce, and have you ever heard of [censored]?

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 11:44 am

8 yrs older is alot

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 11:43 am

The thought of having kids actually rather scared/disgusted her. I admit in this matter she was rather strange because I think she disliked little kids overall. Whenever her older sister with a 3 years old son came over, she was always like this &--#62; :pinch:

8 yrs older is alot

Mom was 7 years older than dad when they first met in college
Grandma was 13 years older than Grandfather when they first held hands

I admit, that was a completely different time period, it just seems like kind of a running trope in my family :biggrin:

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 7:35 am

don't blame yourself, clearly she has deep rooted issues...hence why she says she's never been in an intimate relationship

do yourself a favor and move on before you get caught up in her madness

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 2:12 pm

Communicating can be done without six, not every relationship needs to reproduce, and have you ever heard of [censored]?

Take note of the word many

» Fri Oct 12, 2012 3:07 am

don't blame yourself, clearly she has deep rooted issues...hence why she says she's never been in an intimate relationship

do yourself a favor and move on before you get caught up in her madness

Yes, everyone who hasn't been in an intimate relationship is insane.