I lie, alot.

Post » Fri May 10, 2013 8:13 pm

Then be different with those things. Study history most people don't like, I don't know, Pacific Islander history. FIgure out how to play Harmonica on the guitar or something.

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Tinkerbells
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 4:04 pm

lol. Nah, I think I'm just gonna be boring old me with my boring old interests. I only have a couple weeks left of school, I think I'll just start next year fresh.

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herrade
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 8:37 am

This, pretty much. No need to make mountains of molehills.

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naome duncan
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 9:34 pm

Have you ever had an addiction? that's kind of what it's like.

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Valerie Marie
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 7:21 pm

It is actually very common for kids your age to lie about little things. Like how often you go to parties, the number of girls you slept with, extracurricular activities like MMA or some kind of fighting thing, etc...etc... You should grow out of it. I lied about a lot of little things around that age. Not outright lie but I embellished quite a bit. Like I didn't catch a 8ft wave I caught a 12 ft wave, or saying I caught a 10 lbs fish instead of a 7 lbs fish or something like that. It is compensating for something you feel insecure about. For me, I was insecure about my friendships. I am a white guy who hung out with all the local Hawaiian kids. I always felt I had to overcompensate in order to fit in with them because it was often a hostile environment for me and anytime I did anything wrong someone would say something about being a stupid Haole or something to that effect and it really pissed me off. So I lied, fought with people over small things in order to get respect and whatnot. It didn't help that it worked. But it was [censored] stupid.

The important question is this. Do you lie about the big things and to your parents and friends about the big stuff?

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 9:03 am

Quite honestly, you are a teenager and even when i was a teen I tend to lie out of a panic situation (half the time, there is no need for me to panic). Just work on avoiding lies that will impact your day or anyone's day and everyone will go to sleep happy :yes:

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 10:07 am

I have in the past, but not really any more.

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 7:32 am

If you feel the need to lie to make your life seem more interesting to other people, you're not handling those interactions correctly in the first place. Don't seek attention, just be content with who you are and humble about how you portray yourself.

If you want something real and interesting to occupy yourself with and talk about, then take up a hobby and hang out with people who are willing to hear you talk about it honestly. If you play a lot of video games, for example, you could actually try anolyzing them and talking about your observations. Stuff like that is real conversation with real meaning.

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 9:27 am

I have. I also had an issue exaggerating. I began asking myself before spitting something out, "Now is that actually true? Is it something you can back up later? Is it worth the extra lies and nosedive in your reputation to keep it going?" It might've been easier for me since I grew up with a lot of kids who did lie and I never wanted to be like them since I tend to be pretty trusting of people, so I found myself doing it and backed out.

I was also overweight and used a similar thought process to lose 65lbs and keep it off for ten years now.

Also, there is a lot of wisdom in the below post, by Albino Dunmer.

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 11:21 am

Sounds to me like you are not comfortable in your own skin and lie as a self defense mechanism. Best thing you can do is identify what makes you insecure and then just face it. Either accept it as a flaw or turn it into a strength. Just try not to overcompensate. I mean it is a pretty simple concept, if someone is comfortable with them self other people will pick up on it.

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 12:31 pm

Well, I have to go to bed and ponder on these advices. Thanks everyone for the support and [censored].

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Vickytoria Vasquez
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 10:07 pm

At 15, you're still fumbling about with who you are and who you want to be. I can't recall anyone who was comfortable in their own skin at that age.

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Siobhan Thompson
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 1:29 pm

Mostly true. However lying to compensate for those things is something else.

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Jessie Butterfield
 
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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 1:03 pm

No, that's Catch Me if You Can.

But yeah, you're cooler than you think you are. No need to polish up a story to impress your friends.

They are already impressed with you! That's why they're your friends. (I use the term, "impressed," loosely.)

Great Gatsby, he says....what a wise guy.

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Post » Fri May 10, 2013 6:55 am

Why lie? You have to ask yourself that because when you lie to others then you're not being tru to self.

Personally I have the opposite problem, i'm too honest and real for the average person, even when i'm not being brutally honest. People say they want the truth but can't handle when they hear it
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