what is something that soemones said or done that has completely devastated you

mine is when my sister died and my mom and dad, disowned me for defending her
or when the man i looked up to in life...my granddad said the only thing i could do for him to make him proud is to join the marines otherwise he wouldnt be proud or happy
and at my highschool graduation he scolded me for not joining

Uh....wow.

I.....got a C in accounting and I wanted at least a B.

yeah i shared that because i just needed to get it off my chest
you got something thats happened?

My brother died from an OD. That's about it. Can't say I've ever been devastated by anything to be honest.

Heh well i respect your honesty, and now that you put it that way I suppose ill stop being a jerk .

Ummm...I've never had anything devastating in my life happen. I've had a couple really bad things happen, like when my cat that i loved and had for 4 years died. I used to cry looking at his picture for like 2 years after that.

completely understandable pets are like your friends

When my dog died

well im not a crybaby far from
but once i was playing with my dog
with a football on some grass
and i kicked the ball he came running and i kicked my own freaking dog in the mouth
yea
thats right
f***!!
i took him to the vet and he healed ok tho
he was shocked he is old now still my buddy
i tell you that svcked !!

I've been in several accidents, some of them being car accidents, and I've had more than a few relatives die in the past few years. Not much can devastate me any more. I usually keep a cool head in intense situations now, but yes Eagle, I understand what you're going through, and I appreciate you sharing it. It definitely helps to get things out in the open, I'm sure you agree.

When my father left it devastated me for a while, I can still remember the exact moment, after a while though I just started to hate him and moved on. Also, knowing that my wife will never fully trust me again kinda svcks.

nothing i want to share here for attention's sake.

When I lost my best friend of 5+ years due to my own stupid mistakes.

My childhood friend aged 8, died a accidental death, never did get over it.

Last July, my father in law was diagnosed with an advanced state of Prostate Cancer. To help him out, we offered that he stay with us so that he wouldn't be alone and we could get him to any appointments,etc.. We got VERY close and he said I was like the second son he always wanted. Watching such a strong man dwindle over time into complete and utter shambles really shattered my world. He passed away in February and I'm still fighting with it.

A lot, but it's all in the past or soon will be.

Edit: Scrap this, I think I may be getting the definition of 'devastate' wrong, not sure if my story has anything to do with being brought to ruin, except perhaps exclusively in the area that it deals with.

when I realized I have no emotions... only when I laugh I smile

Um, nothing devastating. I have been to multiple funerals and not a single wedding, so that kinda svcks. I'd like a positive reason to drink...

We'll my uncle passed away after a year of recovering from a stroke.

My brothers best friend hung himself a few months ago.

4 days ago four kids got into a car crash and 3 died, one is in the hospital in critical condition. I only knew one of them though.

Hard to say really it probably started with my father if I had to say anything. Still remember being 3 years old and sitting down to eat dinner. Next thing I know he starts gagging/gargling and collapses on the floor. Sadly that's all I remember and it was after that I grew up with out a dad pretty much. Also had to deal with the loss of 2 more relatives which didn't make things easier.

More recently the devastating thing to me is being 27 years old and going to a cardiologist having to hear that might have to go on cholesterol meds. My stats were fine except for cholesterol and such which were alright but not great. Due to my family history I may have to be put on a dosage of Lipitor as a precaution and even the cardio doc is hesitant to do that since i'm so young.

Though the most heart breaking thing for me to do was have my dog of 7 years put to sleep on christmas eve because she was bleeding internally from some kind of growth/mass. Could have had an operation on her to save her, but at age 7 near 8 the vet told us it was most likely cancer. Chose to not put her through that kind of pain and let her go peacefully.

Bout ready to pull that Dave Johnson thing and turn a lemon into a combustible lemon and throw it at life's house. :mohawk:

Have to say though what doesn't drag us down will only make us stronger in life and we must persevere in the face of adversity. I got my body, my mind, and my spirit which no one can take from me and I will use all of that to do what I want in life going against the grain if I have to.

May 25th 2011 when my girlfriend broke up with me. I cried so hard and for many days.. I haven't been the same man since..

Didn't you make this same type of post along time ago telling us this story about your sister and parents?

As for me. Uhm. Nothing, I guess. I mean, if you count a breakup when I was like 16.. then sure that. But I was 16, so it doesn't really count :/

It's not about what's happened to a person, but how they deal with it over any length of time. So both the short term as well as the long term reaction taken together should be looked at to determine if someone is dealing with something, or repressing it somehow. When you nut up to get through a situation, only to end up an alcoholic trying to deal with it later... kinda sux, know what I mean?




Life throws crap at you, the longer you live, the more crap you accumulate. The sensible thing here is to know when you need to be flushed, to occasionally use tidy bowl and keep a firm toilet brush handy for the tough parts.

Otherwise you end up in the hands of an over paid plumber wearing jeans that show more crack than north Philly, who'll *fix* you using sub standard materials :grad:

Yeah, I'm not fond of therapists either.